(Closed) Frustrated with my venue and getting married in 10 days…

posted 5 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
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3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think when the day comes everything will work out perfectly. Your concers aren’t unreasonable but remember that this is the most stressful time! Everything is going to become a frustration so try and take a deep breathe. Maybe have your Fiance speak to the venue because sometimes men are better at keeping calm during the fuss. Also keep in mind that when stressed you are less likely to see things clearly. Try and take some down time and catch some R&R. 

 

Everything will be beautiful and perfect on your wedding day and the venue will fall into shape. It always help to drop hints of writing a review. Good luck! Prayers heading your way! 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@jhey83:  Maybe 1 bottle of wine per table would suffice–that’s $450 cheaper than 2 bottles and still a nice touch. Not everyone will drink wine and mabye buy a few more “just in case” you run out. Not too many though. I think you should express your concerns with them regarding the upkeep of the area–that’s really unacceptable. It sounds like these are details that should have been talked about months ago and I’m sorry you’re going through this but that’s what contracts are for with clear guidelines. I’m anal about this kind of stuff so I made sure to cover my ass.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@jhey83:  Aww I’m so sorry. I hope your little one is recovering beautifully! Everything will be fine on that day–don’t worry. Just breathe! One step at a time. Wine isn’t a requirement–we are having NO ALCOHOL and I don’t feel bad at all. That’s why we went for brunch–assuming that’s out of the cards, I think that having 2-3 tickets per person is more than reasonable. You also don’t need the bar AND wine. It’s a nice touch if your meal is more formal but otherwise I’d skip it altogether.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@jhey83:  I agree that both the bar and wine may be a bit much. It is a sweet gesture but nobody is EXPECTING it from you. Everyone will be thrilled enough just being there to participate. If you really want to put wine on the tables then I do think one bottle would suffice. Do you have your seats arranged already? If so maybe ask each guests at the table if they are wine drinkers or not. If nobody at that table enjoys wine then skip it and go to the table that does. Perhaps a bit of sparkling cider for tables that opt out of the wine option? Or you could not offer it all together. Either way your guests will be happy as a clam! 

 

You definetly deserve that R&R! Hugs to you and I hope it all gets settled sooner than later. 

Post # 9
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989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What kind of flowers do you mean with respect to the gazebo?  Like, flowers permanently planted around it or flower arrangements placed on it?  There is a big difference – I would expect the former to be as shown but not the latter.

Also, I know that you’re strapped for cash, but honestly, I would either have 2 bottles of wine on the tables or just forego them altogether.  One bottle holds ~5 glasses so not everyone would get a full glass if they wanted one.  First priority is making sure that folks don’t have to pay for non-alcoholic beverages though, so if your budget is super tight, I would just direct the money toward the $1800.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

How many people are you putting at a table?  One bottle of wine will serve at max 5 people so I would just be watchful of who drinks and who doesn’t at tables when you have 10 people.  It would suck if all 10 people wanted a glass but only 5 could have any.  If that is the case you’d be better off with no bottles on the table.  If you’re going to do this I would suggest you provide at least 1 glass per guest.  No one should be left out.  $30 for a bottle of wine is a typical price at a restaurant.  Also remember people who don’t normally drink will be more likely to at a wedding because it is a celebratory occasion.

If you really have to pay $1800 for soda I would skip the wine and direct your money here.  People shouldn’t have to pay for soda and juice.  Just have all alcohol cash bar.

That really sucks about the $1800 for soda and juice and the upkeep of the place.  Good luck!

Post # 12
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3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@jhey83:  Id that where you are honeymooning? How romantic! I am sure your Fiance is just as anxious to get there(:

Post # 14
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989 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@jhey83:  We will see you there.  Heading to CN in 2 weeks. 🙂

Post # 15
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3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@jhey83:  You both deserve those 9 days. Your daughter will be fine and will be rewarded with happy parents when you both return home. 

 

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