(Closed) frustrated with the lack of understanding….

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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2821 posts
Sugar bee

Yikes, I’m sorry.  My sister has already made comments to me like ‘oh I’m sure you’re going to be one of those weird cloth diaper people’ and I’m not even pregnant yet.  I’m not ashamed to say I’m environmentally conscious but what really swayed me was that babies in cloth don’t usually get diaper rashes.  I just wore an old pair of bike shorts that gave me butt burn and I’ve been complaining about it for 2 days now, not exactly something I want for my baby (especially in an area that has poop around it)

But…….people who use disposables will think I’m judging them, but I’m just trying to explain why we decided what we decided, there’s no winning.

Post # 4
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1927 posts
Buzzing bee

Just say “thanks for your opinion” and change the subject.  It is no one else’s business what goes on your baby’s bum!

Post # 5
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1778 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I know what you mean about families being a pain and about FB being evil!

 

I would however ask you to think about one thing.  Your TIME has value too.  And cloth diapers take a lot more time (cleaning them, cleaning the baby, etc.)  So don’t just think about the money involved.

I do like the no chemicals on the baby though! 

Good luck with whichever decision you make.  And remember it has to be right for YOU and no one else (well maybe your hubby 😛 )

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Ugh…I would just try to ignore their comments at this point and stop responding to them. Hopefully they drop the subject soon.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I admire you for going the cloth diaper route.  That isn’t an easy task to take on.  I wanted to post a sarcastic comment for you to shoot back at them, but I know that isn’t the right thing to do.  Just hold your head up high and ignore them. If you husband supports your choice, that is all that matters.  If it gets really bad, I would suggest asking your husband to talk to them.  The best thing to do is pray for those that verbally attack you, and to turn the other cheek. 

Post # 9
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2867 posts
Sugar bee

@stlginkgo:  It’s your choice and I think it’s a good one.  I’m sorry you’re getting crap for it.  Your hubby needs to tell them to lay off.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We’re also doing cloth and are getting some rude feedback about how messy it is. I just shrug and smile and say, “Maybe I’m crazy, but that’s what we’re going with.” Even if they drive you crazy with their comments, they can’t force you to change what you’re doing 🙂

Post # 11
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1455 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Tell them “Thanks for your thoughts! I’ll be sure to bring disposables for when YOU babysit but I’ll stick with my choice when I watch my own child.”

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2000

It’s worth giving it a try, regardless of the naysayers. The diaper service we are going with for the first few months uses prefolds and diaper covers. My friend is going to show  me how to fold the diaper ahead of time b/c apparently there are different ways to prefold that work better than others. Anyway, as far as environmental impact not being a major reason for me too (although it is nice), I really think cloth will be more comfortable. I hate the sound/feel of plastic and it makes sense that those fleece/terry/cotton diapers would be oh so pampering to the baby’s bottom.

P.S. I think it’s only the beginning of people ‘opinionating’ all over your child rearing choices. Did you get a lot of practice with this (deflecting other’s strong opinions)  with your wedding planning? i sure did. It was an unpleasant but necessary growing experience.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

Get used to people judging your parenting choices…UGH.  The “advice” never stops!  I just ignore the rude stuff now…I’m too exhausted to argue anymore.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Fiance already turns his nose at cloth. Little does he comprehend the EXPENSE of disposable diapers! I’m personally pretty pro-cloth and am happy that some old classmates have already gone that route. Now, I have no baby or kids to say from experience, however, I will say, when the day comes, PRO-CLOTH! 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

In Seattle, people look at you funny if you use disposables!  I say stick to your guns and don’t worry what others say.  Let’s face it, someone is going to say something regardless of what you decide!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

sometimes I just have sassy/snarky remarks that I say “in my head”, but it’s not worth fighting back…on some of my baby related choices “well, I guess I *COULD just go with what the corporations want me to buy, but I’d rather do what’s best for my baby and budget.”   😛

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