Post # 1
So I have been trying to lose weight since I got engaged…well longer than that because of my healthy. Anyways since the beginning of the year I have lost 25 lbs and a total of 34 lbs from my heaviest. I recently joined a bikini boot camp at the gym. This was the 3rd week. It is a 4 week camp. Anyways I notice changes with in inches but the scale has not budged AT ALL. I eat healthier, I don’t deprive myself, I have a cheat day and I count calories. I usually alternate my calorie intake each day (to try to trick my body) so I will eat anywhere from 1200-2000 calories a day. Healthy calories that is and I try to get enough protein, and all I drink is water. I also workout anywhere from 3-5 days a week for an hour to 2 hours. I have stalled anywhere from 158-163 for the past 2 months. I had a goal of 130 by the time I get married. I am so unhappy with what I see in pictures (and I know I should be happy with myself) I hate the double chin look on me! Anyways one of my BMs is an inch taller than me (I am 5’3) and she started boot camp and losing weight. She went from 130 to 119 in a month so she is ALWAYS telling me how easy it is and giving me advice and how her weight just fell off and her hubby lost weight too and it is so easy for them to lose weight. I’m sorry, but she has NEVER been fat nor does she know what it is like to be fat. This is a girl who can eat a double cheeseburger meal, a whole pizza and 5 brownies all in a day and NOT gain any weight. The most she has ever weighed was 150-160 when she was pregnant. I feel like she is just bringing me down. She tells me she doesn’t know why I can’t lose weight and if it has always been hard. Well no it hasn’t but I have never been close to 200 lbs either! Then again after she knew she made me mad last time she tells me yesterday “don’t take this the wrong way but I don’t see why people can’t lose weight, I did it in a month, just watch what you eat”. Now she tells me she eats what she wants and can have whatever she wants and won’t gain weight. We have talked every day for the past 2 years and now I feel like she is being so negative I don’t want to talk to her anymore, but she is in my wedding so it is kind of hard. If she talks about weight or working out I always change the subject but she keeps asking so it is hard to avoid. My Fiance tells me I concentrate on what everyone else is doing that is why I am having problems…maybe he is right.
Post # 3
If you’re losing inches, you’re doing something right!
Muscle is denser than fat, so you are likely gaining muscle. Think of it this way: Imagine 100 pounds of lead. Now imagine 100 pounds of feathers. The feathers will take up substantially more space because they’re less dense. Feathers = fat, lead = muscle.
So, you’re getting there! Burning fat and building muscle should be the goal. Don’t get so caught up with the numbers on the scale; it’s just a number. Pay attention to how you’re shrinking and getting stronger.
Post # 4
I’m not familiar with the tricking your body thing…maybe just try keeping your calories around 1200 every day? I know for myself if I eat 2000 calories a day I would not be losing weight even with exercise, but everyone is different.
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
She is naturally thin, you’re not. Tell her to stuff it. 🙂
Seriously, it’s easier for some people than it is for others– obviously she’s one of the blessed. You and I aren’t!!! You need to explain to her that her comments aren’t helping you, she’s probably just trying to motivate you, and doesn’t realize how hurtful what she says is.
As for the boot camp, it sounds like you’re building muscle and losing fat which means the scale wont show much change, but the tape measure will (this is a GOOD thing!!!) When I first started crossfit I stopped losing weight; I’m the same height and just a bit smaller than you, I’ve stalled at 150-153. In the past 4 months I’ve lost almost a full dress size, but the scale hasn’t moved an ounce.
I know you’re trying to keep your body guessing with the calories, but you might be doing more harm than good going that route because the huge swings keep your body guessing, so it’s airing on the side of caution and retaining more than it needs to– I’d trim your calorie range down a bit to a 200-400 span, instead of 800, like maybe 1300-1700, or even 1400-1600 (my range) because this will give your body the stability it needs to release it’s fat stores because it “knows” the next meal is coming.
Also, have you ever considered a paleo diet? I don’t do it 100% but even aiming for paleo 75-80% of the time I’ve seen a difference. Similar to the calorie changes, if you change up your regular eating habits, sometimes it shocks the system into dropping excess weight. Just different foods/recipes will give your body new stuff to work with. I even tried a routine for a while where I had a vegan breakfast, a vegetarian lunch, and a conventional dinner. By adding those restrictions I had to try new foods and I really think the adjustments helped me not lose my momentum for loss.
Post # 6
Sorry you’re feeling frustrated, I know losing weight sucks!
I agree with @abbie017: since your working out, you can’t really rely to much on what the scale says. You’re building muscle, so don’t expect to see a drastic change on the scale. Your clothes are the best way to see if you’re doing good.
Remember everyone is completly different. Some people lose weight easily, others don’t. Don’t let your friend get you down.
Important thing is you’ve decided to make a change in your life! Stay positive and try to keep eating good. You can work out like an animal, but if your not eating good (not saying your not) it’s worth nothing. 90% of losing weight is eating good.
Continue what you’re doing and you will see a difference!!
Post # 7
Your eating is the problem.
You shouldnt be tricking your body that often, stick to around 1800 calories for the most part then “trick” your body by eating 1200 calories for a whole week, but dont do it too often bc 1200 calories is not enough especially for someone who is working out as much as you are, your body will think its starving and begin to store fat for survival mode, so you’re actually doing your weight loss harm by eating less calories.
Post # 8
Also, you didnt specify what you do to workout, if you’ve been doing the same routine then your body will be used to it, therefore making it way less effective or not effective at all.
Post # 9
Thank you all for the advice! This week I did decide to re-evaluate my calorie intake. I am on MFP and decided to set it at 1490 and stick to it stricktly. When I workout I do wear a heart rate monitor and try to burn at least 500 calories each time I workout. Also this time around I did add weights so I bet that is the reason the scale is stalling. I had always done a body pump class (weight class) and notice a little more toning, but now I lift with my Fiance and when I measured my thigh I had gained a half an inch but it has to be muscle and I am fine with that. I decided to do the “tricking” your body deal this past month and of course it didn’t make a difference. I had read somewhere about if you reach a weight loss plateau to try that and I did and it didn’t work for me.
@juliette.eliza: I haven’t tried the paleo diet. What is it? I will look it up also! Thanks!
Post # 10
For my workouts, now I do boot camp, which is a combination of strength training and cardio. When I workout on days I don’t do boot camp I do cardio and weights. One day it’s abs and run, the next is arms and run, then legs and run. I always run at least 3 miles when I go to the gym and now I do intervals to switch it up instead of running at a constant speed. I also do elliptical if I’m too tired to run. The days I don’t workout are the days I make sure to stay lower calories. Also, what are your opinions on eating 6 meals a day or 3? I find that when it is time for a snack I am not hungry. At one point I was forcing it and decided I didn’t want to do that anymore. (For snacks I do a piece of fruit or Greek yogurt).
Can someone also explain to me the anearobic training? Someone was talking to me about it one time but I didn’t understand it and I’m not sure what to look up online. All I know is it is something you reach, then if you go over that your body is pretty much doing the opposite you want it to so instead of burning fat you are storing fat. (not sure if I said that right).
Post # 11
@September29Runner: I do Paleo also and I have noticed a difference. It is a lot of lean protein, fruits vegetables, nuts. No dairy, grain, legumes. If you google paleo or paleolithic diet, you will find the foods you can/not eat. Salt is the enemy also. I was speaking to my Crossfit coach about cheat days and he told me that I cannot have a cheat DAY-“you can erase your whole week of doing good with one cheat day.” He recommended a cheat meal and cheat snack. I am working on that. Just a suggestion. Hope this helps!
Post # 12
@nickie362: Thank you. That is really good to know. I have looked it up and I don’t think it would be too bad, although I love cheese but honestly I don’t eat as much as I used to anymore. I really think I might try the Paleo diet.
Post # 13
@September29Runner: Stop talking to your extremely unhelpful friend about it. Find someone who knows what you’re going through, or just do it yourself. People like that will just bring you down as you have probably already realised…