(Closed) Frustrating Friday (a bit long!)

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1013 posts
Bumble bee

Oh i feel your pain today girl.  But i think since this is his first year teaching he HAS to make those investments.  The first few years are alwasy the worst trying to establish yourself and your learning plan.  It gets easier and then he will be prepared. 

This morning i jokingly asked my SO if he wanted to go ring shopping since he is going to have like $3,000 in extra cash this month.  He said sure.  Ummm. Ok? We went in November and again at the start of March.  You said you wanted to pick the ring yourself.  I gave you guidelines.  Have you been doing nothing the last month and a half? Haven’t even thought to look yourself? Awesome.  

Lol so i’m going to clarify with him tonight.  But if he seriously wants to look AGAIN i’m going to be annoyed. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I dont think they do understand unfortunately.  I think they are blissfully ignorant.  I would tell exactly what you said.  That it hurts your feelings to have moving forward with your relationship on the backburner. 

And unfortunately, i have little sympathy when they pull the ‘pressure’ card.  Because they do it to themselve when they choose to continue to wait.  Its not me making comments, its his parents and my parents and all our friends and siblings.  So dont throw yourself a pity party cause i wont come.

lol aaaaahhh its friday! Weekends here so lets try to enjoy it!! Laughing

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

ColoradoGirl, I’m speechless right now, because you basically just described my boyfriend and his personality and attitude about our future engagement. I’m a control freak, and rarely ever leave anything up to him to take care of.  So it’s really bothering me to know I can’t have any input into his planning.  But I know I’m never making it any better by talking about it.  I think he wants to surprise me, and talking about it will only postpone it.  

Post # 9
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Newbee

 

Oh my no, no you are not alone at all! 🙂

You and your SO sound so similar to me and my SO.  He’s easygoing, and I’m a planner.  He, too, gets surprised with my ups and downs with the waiting game.  During our last conversation, he flat out told me that he’s thinking about it even though it doesn’t look like he’s thinking about it.  It sounds like that’s the case with your SO, too. 

But it’s still hard on us…thank goodness for the Bee!

Hope you enjoy the weekend, ColoradoGirl! 

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@jk1:  verbatim what my Boyfriend or Best Friend told me!  Wow. I really am not alone in my misery hahah.

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