Post # 1
Im a newbie here, my wedding date is October 15th/`11
I have started looking into some wedding related things, for instance oogling wedding bands when i happen to walk by a jewellery store, or scoping at dresses. We booked our ceremony and reception location already.
Now, thank the good lord, the ceremony is at my childhood church, so the pastor knows me, and has complete faith that I am making a sound decision, despite being young (22)… however, everywhere else I’ve gone, I’ve gotten the complete opposite reaction. When i was scoping out reception venues, one place wouldn’t even let me sign the contract, apparently you need to be at least 25 to rent their facility. And when I look at jewellery and dresses the consultants dont take me seriously. THey’ll help everyone else, including people that come in after me, and I need to flag them down and ask to see this ring, or get a fitting room…
I have even had cashiers say to me when I’m grocery shopping “You’re getting married?!?!” when they spot the ring and then go into how young i am….
I hate to sound like a whiney little brat, but I am just ASTONISHED at the treatment I’ve been recieving and it is so offputting. When I come home from a jewellery store after being treated like that, the only word in my mind is “ELOPE”….
Are there any other young october 11 brides suffering the same thing?
Post # 3
I’m 25, but have gotten a bit of it from random people because I look very young. I haven’t met anyone wedding related in person yet (I have my first venue meeting on Thursday, so we’ll see what happens), so I think that’s helped with a lot of it.
The only advice I can offer is that anyone who won’t give you the time of day because of how you look is NOT someone you want to do business with.
Post # 4
omg I know just how you feel! I am also a young oct bride to be(I’m 21)…And actually when my mom and I went to look at a venue they started talking to her about about what she was thinking and she looked at them and was like I belive you should be asking the bride to be those questions, the lady then turned to me and looked at my like I had to heads!! I understand most of mine cus from the fact that I look even younger then I am but seriously even if you think someone is young you should still treat them they same as every other customer.
Post # 5
I just tell people who are nosey to mind their own business. As for the vendors, just let them know you won’t be using them for their costumer service.
Post # 6
I’m young (23) and definitely find that how I present myself affects how I am treated. When dealing with vendors, etc. I would be sure to wear semi-professional clothing when meeting them (dress pants and shirt/ cardigan), would avoid “slang” in professional correspondence (i.e. e-mail) and paid a lot of attention to my body language (firm handshake, looking at the person in the eye while speaking etc). I know if seems silly (and you should be treated the same no matter what) – but, I found that it really matters.