Post # 16
Oh yes, people like to send them back at the last minute or not at all. We literally had to call half of the 165 people we invited. I never in my wildest dreams imagined we’d have to call so many people. You still have plenty of time until your deadline, so I wouldn’t worry too much. We didn’t start calling people until a few days after our deadline.
Post # 17
November 8 is still weeks away. I’m sure you will start to see responses come in with many on or around the deadline. Don’t call or contact people asking about their plans until afterwards. That’s pushy.
Post # 18
You sent your RSVPs considerably early for a December wedding, and many people likely don’t know their holiday/other plans yet. DO NOT contact people again before your deadline. This has happened to me on multiple occasions, and there is no point in setting a deadline if you’re not going to allow people that time before bugging them anyway. It’s annoying and puts me off every time. Try to remember that your wedding is your number 1 priority right now, but for many of your guests, it’s just one more tentative event to try and juggle.
Post # 19
We have gotten 28 back from 130 and our rsvp has closed. I kinda expected this somehow tho. I don’t think people rsvp anymore in a general sense. Also I made some mistakes and sent my invites too early. Kinda controversial but you could make a Facebook status saying “last day to RSVP!” And change the audience settings. Block everyone who isn’t invited or who already rsvp’d. My friend did this and it worked out well for her. It does feel like going against general etiquette however so I’m not recommending it
Post # 20
I’d say don’t freak out until you get closer to the actual RSVP deadline.
Post # 21
I always send in my RSVP the second I get the invitation, because I am a really type A person. I was shocked that most people RSVP’ed right before the deadline, and I even got a few a couple of days after the deadline had passed. I don’t understand why people do that, but maybe they’re trying to arrange their schedules or something.