- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I don’t post about my family that much but I believe I have already posted about my relationship with my older sister.
I’m the younger girl but all my life I’ve pretty much felt like the older sibling. I’ve always been the reliable one, the one my parents rely on and the one who takes care of everyone else. Even my older sister who is still working and commuting from home with little responsibility over the past two years.
She’s always separated herself from my family which is something none of us understand, we love her we give her space but she is never around nor happy to be around us. Everyone’s pretty much acknowledged this point by now and I know it’s hard on my parents and my littlest sister who is only 10, that our sister would rather be out with her friends and be extremely unreliable as a person to depend on.
What bothered me this weekend, I’ll admit it made me cry when I told my DH this, is her recent attitude towards my parents, especially my mom. We were out, (myself, DH, sister and mom) recently to see a broadway show and my older sister was being very snippy and short with my mom while she tried to be polite and make small talk. I had no idea this was going on all day until my mom told me after it had happened. My mom asked, genuinely concerned, why she was so angry or seemed to upset towards her when she’d done nothing but make conversation. My sister told my mom she did not ‘want to talk to her’ and shut up through the rest of the afternoon. I felt this was beyond rude as we were all out enjoying the day thankful for a belated present of my parents paying for tickets to the show. My family is really generous and caring and my dad loves doing things like this for us girls as well as my husband.
My mom told me she was hurt and even cried about it. I cried too as she told me weeks after the event and was tearing up explaining how my sister had behaved towards her.
Another recent development is my sister is trying to move out with a girl friend. Right now she is living at home paying off debt and working full time. My parents have no issues with her moving and encourage it when she gets on her feet enough financially, but the fact is she’s going about it in a way that is also hurtful. She did not tell my parents anything but is apparently planning on moving with her friend (unemployed) to a not-so-good part of town, a place that is really not the best place for single women to be living alone. My mom found out via her friend’s mom, also my mom’s best friend, who was also concerned the two young women are not thinking clearly and have no way to pay for a place together right now. I know it would worry both our families if they decided to move to this part of town. Both of them are not street-smart and haven’t the slightest idea of how to live in a big city.
I know they are adults but right now my sister is acting like a child and it’s really hurtful to me and the rest of my family. I know we’re probably all going to just let them do what they want and pray for the best for them but it is concerning to me as I am now worried about her safety. It really breaks my heart how she’s treating my mom and how we used to be best friends is nearly lost for good. I’ve communicated my desire to hear from her more often and sometimes talk to her but it’s always the same response, very short or rude when I know she spends hours talking to her other friends over our family.
I know this is a very personal post and am sorry if it is long but had to write it to expell all the bad feelings I had today. There. I feel better. 🙂