Post # 1
I’m sorry that this is somewhat of a venting post, generally I don’t like to write them, but this is really frustrating me and I could use some advice.
I am in my last year of law school (57 days until graduation!) and throughout the three years I have put on a lot of weight, like 30 pounds. A lot of it had to do with the fact that I went from a schedule that allowed me to go to the gym after work (9am-6pm job), to a schedule that is not conducive to that at all (usually I’m at school from 8am until 10pm).
Recently I bought my wedding gown and have renewed motivation to find time to get to the gym. I realize that I can’t go every day, but I’ve been going about 4-5 times a week for three weeks. Last week I also started with a personal trainer, and have been seeing him for half an hour 3 times a week. So I’ve been lifting light weights 3 times a week and doing cardio 4-5 times. Plus I have really tried to change my eating habits. I usually have oatmeal in the morning, salad or soup or chili for lunch, and the same for dinner.
Here’s what’s annoying. i haven’t seen ANY results. I mean, I don’t see more muscle, and I haven’t lost any weight. I know the pounds won’t come flying off, but nothing……
I’m giving up hope and feeling really frustrated and upset about it. Has anyone gone through, or are going through this too?
Post # 3
You may not have lost any weight, but how do your clothes fit? Muscle weighs more than fat. In fact, you may even gain a few pounds at first because of the increase in muscle mass.
How much cardio are you doing and at what intensity? Riding the stationary bike on 3 for 30 minutes is not going to lead to weight loss unless you are grossly overweight. Can you incorporate classes (like spin or step) or go from 30 minutes of cardio 4 times a week to 60 minutes of cardio for 4x/wk?
Chili is not typically low cal or low fat, especially with cheese and sour cream. How much dressing is on your salad? How many toppings compared to lettuce? I find that people think they are making healthy food options (like soup) when they might as well have had a cheese burger (ie cream of broccli soup). How many calories per day are you consuming?
Hope this helps. Stay motivated!
Post # 4
Oh man, I can definitely understand your frustration, especially when you’ve been working so hard! That’s awesome that you’ve been working out so much.
I’ve heard that a general rule of thumb when it comes to weight loss is that it’s 80% diet, 20% exercise. It might be worth taking a closer look at what you’re eating to see if that’s what’s going on.
You could either be eating too many calories, or, weirdly, not enough– if you’re excercising a lot and not eating enough your metabolism can slow waaay down.
Good luck! It sounds like you are really motivated.
Post # 5
For the first month of exercising, I saw nothing happening, too. But I knew that working out was good for me so I kept at it. By month 2, I was losing an average of 0.8 lbs a week. The difference was so small to feel like it mattered…but the small amount of weight came off and STAYED off. By month 4, I had dropped 7lbs (I’m not overweight so it was harder for me to lose weight – but I was at the higher end of my BMI). I felt the difference in how my clothes fit. So even though it was hard for me to see the difference (I couldn’t even see any gain in muscle!), it was definitely happening. People kept commenting on how good I looked. Just keep at it…you will see the difference in a few weeks!
Post # 6
I don’t know how tall you are, and I’m no nutrionist, but are you eating enough? Add a scoop of peanut butter or some walnuts to your oatmeal and having small snacks throughout the day. You need to fuel your body for all that hard work you’re doing! My fiance is a personal trainer/physical therapist and he constantly sees clients who don’t lose weight because their bodies simply need more food! Much luck, and don’t beat yourself up so much—small, steady changes will lead to huge results. =)
Post # 7
I agree…In the past four years, I have lost about 20 pounds–reeeallllly gradually, to the point that I didn’t feel like I was losing any weight at all! Half a pound here and half a pound there really does add up… Don’t lose motivation though!!! I usually feel burn out right around the 3-4 week range when I feel like I’ve worked so hard and it SHOULD SHOW but it doesn’t…it will, but you can’t give up. Good luck!!
Post # 8
It sounds like you just started with the trainer… You really have to give yourself a good month to see any real physical results. I try to focus on how I feel in the first few weeks, and other subtle signs since I know the scale isn’t going to help me feel better right away.
Just keep at it and let your hard work be its own reward right now. Talk to your trainer about your progress, and hopefully they’ve measured you for tracking purposes.
Good luck and hang in there!
Post # 9
Thanks you sooo much for your comments and support!
Let me answer the questions asked above, maybe the details will help clarify the situation a little:
My clothes are fitting a little better – I just noticed a shirt that was normally tight around the waist was a lot looser (so that felt really good). My pants don’t feel looser – but maybe that’s because I’m running a lot more than I used to, so I might be gaining a lot of lower body muscle?
In terms of lettuce:toppings ratio on my salads, I usually have about 75% lettuce, some carrots, some red peppers, red onions, a few nuts and a little cheese. As for dressing, I put a tablespoon, or two at the most, of balsamic vinagerrete- the Annie’s kind that doesn’t have added sugar.
I don’t actually have any cheese or sour cream or anything with my chili. Just the beans and soy crumbles, celery, onions and tomatoes. And the soups I make are vegetable soup or tomato soup that only has a little bit of half and half (and that’s only a little for a whole pot).
I do cardio for about 45-60 whenever I go to the gym, running on the treadmill, I don’t do the bike or the elliptical machine. And when I do lifting, I start off with a 10 minute run, then do the weights, then do a 35-45 minute cardio work out.
What do you ladies think? Maybe I should start keeping a food journal and seeing what I actually consume? I never think those will help, but maybe it will?
Post # 10
I highly recommend http://www.sparkpeople.com for food & exercise tracking, I lost 60lbs in nine months when I started tracking my food & workouts on the site 3 years ago (went from a size 16/18 to my current size 8). When I first started on my wieght-loss journey, it really helped me in terms of thinking about portion size as well as realizing that I was not eating enough protein every day.
Post # 11
Funny! I’m in law school too, finishing this year, and for a lot of the same reasons put on quite a bit of weight in the last 3 yrs. For about 2 months now, I have been tracking what I eating on sparkpeople.com – I highly recommend it, if only to keep you conscious of everything you eat. I have also been going to the gym 5-6 times/week (although only doing cardio – haven’t got to the weights stage yet.) The thing is, like you, I haven’t seen any results until recently.
Because it was so frustrating I did a couple of things. First, I didn’t give up (partly because, with the craziness and stress that is law school, I liked having control in one area of my life!). I trusted that what I was doing was healthier for me, and would eventually show results. I also cut out all soda – I drank a lot of diet coke and stopping was hard, but I wanted to see if it would make a difference.
The biggest change I made was my evening meal – my fiance and I decided to experiment and are only eating salad and vegetables for dinner. Nothing else. Breakfast and lunch are normal, and yes, it feels restricting and boring. But it has worked. I have lost about 6lbs in 2 weeks now and amdoing much better.
Keep it up. You are doing good things for yourself, even if it is frustrating. And good luck with the next couple of months. We are almost there!! (And then just a long summer studying for the bar ahead…)
Post # 12
I recommend http://www.fitday.com for logging your calorie intake. Mrs. Avacado has mentioned on her personal blog many times how much fitday helped her develop a better relationship with food. Logging your food intake can really show you where you may be consuming too much fat or calories. It also has a section to log activity, how much weight you want to lose over time (and what your calorie consumption vs. burn rate needs to be to get there). I have found it to be an extremely helpful tool.
I think it’s especially important though, when you are first starting out to not even touch the scale. Concentrate on what you can notice in your everyday habits. Looking at the scale and not seeing numeric results can be really depressing, even if your clothes are fitting better. 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
i worked out with a trainer for 6 months and didn’t lose a single pound until i changed my diet.
it doesn’t sound like you’re eating that much? if you can eat 5 small meals a day, it keeps your metabolism working throughout the day and you actually lose more weight. i ate oatmeal for breakfast, a hearty salad for lunch, and a dinner of fish or chicken with veggies. 4 pounds melted off right away.
i hope that helps. good luck!
Post # 14
Hi there i understand you completely. I lost 10 pounds, let me tell you what I did, I wake up at 5:00am and start with a walking machine, then i drink 8 glasses of water during the day, i have for breakfast 1 cup of milk 0%fat, with 1 cup of cereal and 1/2 banana. For lunch I have chicken or any meat with 2 types of salad, and like 1/2 cup of rice, or a small potatoe, for dinner I can have the same, or sometimes ceresl again with milk or non fat yogur with cereal, with some raisins.
Post # 15
I feel your frustration. I am now on my second set of personal training sessions only b/c i’m determined to see results. The first time around, i think the problem was that with 3 strength training sessions a week, i wasn’t getting nearly enough cardio to make a difference. Now i’ve been doing the training in the am and going after work for cardio. So most days i’m in there twice a day. And still, slow results (read: no results). The only thing that keeps me going is that i don’t want to be able to say "i wish i had tried harder." Even if i see no results (and i really don’t believe that htis will be the case) i will know that i tried. I’m tired of calculating before every single event and holiday how many weeks it is and how much weight i could lose by then…and then having that date come and go and having everything still be the same. If that happens on my wedding, well, it just can’t. And neither can you! Hang in there. Bodies need to adjust to new regimens. When they do, they’ll do what they’re supposed to (respond to diet and exercise).