Post # 1
I haven’t been with my boyfriend that long, but I pretty much knew from the beginning that he was the one for me (even though we did have a really rough patch).
There is no doubt that we will get married sometime (sooner rather then later).
I have very little patience, and its not helping when my family is asking when I’m getting engaged too (which is a first my family hasn’t approved of any of the others).
Sweetie has some things that he needs and/or wants to do before getting the ring, and I know I’m kind of being selfish but I’m ready for it now. I kind of feel like he is putting things before me.
He says he wants to hurry up and get the ring so he can start the rest of his life with me, but when we start talking about it he doesn’t seem to want to hurry up.
Its aggravating. If he wants to propose why does he keep making excuses for postponing it?!
Post # 3
It is simple, he already told you that he has things he wants to do before proposing so that is your answer. I would let him complete his goals before you start having the ring talk with him. Maybe you can ask him what these things are so that you have an idea of where he needs to be before he will be ready to propose. Goodluck!
Post # 4
How long is not long? Not knowing it’s hard to say much beyond recommending you take a deep breath and slow down – this isn’t a race! Don’t spin so fast through the relationship that you miss parts of it. Maybe ask him for specifics of what he wants to get done preproposal so 1) you know and 2) you can help him achieve those goals. I kind of feel like he is putting things before me. He’s not. You are ready and you need to give him time to be ready too. Impatience has ruined more than one relationship here on the boards.
I totally get the parents asking about the engagement (and not for prior ones). I had to remind myself they are doing it to signal their happiness and approval, not to bug you.