Post # 1
So I am a college student, and of course everyone has heard of the infamous Freshman 15.
My freshman year of college though (10-11) I actually LOST weight and was at the smallest weight I’d ever been – 148.
Over the last two years, I have gained weight like crazy. This semester alone I packed on an extra 20 pounds… I am a stress eater and needless to say college has become super stressful. I am weighing in now at 200 pounds even. That is a weight gain of 52 pounds in the last two years!!!!!!!!
I feel absolutely disgusting… I don’t feel beautiful. Every day is a struggle to get up and get dressed. Nothing looks good on me, I feel gross, I avoid taking pictures or being in pictures because I hate the way I look in them. And of course my wedding is next June and I am sort of in denial about it.
I just don’t know if I can get the weight off by then. I feel like I have been trying to eat better and exercise more and I see no results. I keep track of my calorie intake via My Fitness Pal and that’s pretty accurate. Yet every day is a struggle and every day I see no progress.
I am just really frustrated with myself and with working out and with eating healthy and just everything. I just need some advice. How can I stay motivated? Is there something else I can try?
And what do I do about my wedding? I want to feel beautiful on my wedding day, not disgusting… I tried on dresses in December and felt horrible and vowed to myself I would lose weight before trying again. Well as mentioned before, I’ve gained an additional 20 pounds since then. I’m scared to try on dresses again. But I can’t wait forever to get my dress either!
I just don’t know anymore….
*Also I should add that I am only 5’2 so weighing this much is not healthy for me and definitely affects the way I look.
Post # 3
@collegebride621: I’m in the same boat! I too, am 5’2″ and I started april weighing 186 and worked it down to 174, but it doesn’t seem to show! I’m in college (again,too) and I have zero time for myself and I also have three daughters. Life catches up with me too often and I feel like a failure 🙁 So, as to offering no help to you, I want you to know you’re not alone!
Lots of love and hugs!
Post # 4
I’m 5’8 and top heavy. I weighed 204 lbs. 6 weeks ago I started going to the gym 5x week (3x with a personal trainer) stopped eating so much junk, and I’ve lost 20 lbs and 18 inches so far. I’m at 185 lbs for the first time in two years.
My wedding is in July of next year, I know not everyone can budget a trainer but I want you to know it is possible with the right attitude. I’ve got another 30lbs to go by next year.
Post # 5
@collegebride621: you are definately not alone on this one. I of all people do not have an excuse for the weight gain I have had this past year. I am a kinesiology student and yeah I spend almost 63 hours a week at school as well as working, but my job is literally to promote healthy living, physical activity, rehabilitation and nutrition. yet I have gained enough weight to go from a size 6 to a size 14 this year.
Simply put, this has completely killed my confidence. I try on clothing and focus on the lumps and bumps and leave devastated. I have yet to feel comfortable finding and engagement pictures dress, let alone a wedding dress so I can only imagine how you feel.
I guess my solution for me is to try and relax about it. I bought myself a bike and have decided that from now on I will bike to school every day. we will see how this goes.
Good luck to you. and remember, your Fiance loves you as you are. thus why he is marrying you. so no matter what you lose or gain, you will be beautiful on your wedding day.
Post # 6
Thank you ladies, I really appreciate it! It is nice to hear that I am not alone!!!
Post # 7
@collegebride621: I’ve been struggling with putting weight back on since I’ve been doing my masters degree and I’m also going to be getting back to using myfitnesspal shortly! I’m getting married June next year too, maybe we could add each other there and try to help upport each other?
Post # 8
@collegebride621: check out bodybuilding.com
they have lots of workout plans and diet and nutrition tips. They also have a forum there and some people definitely know what they are talking about! Good luck to you!
Post # 9
It takes time.
After a friend died last year I ate my feelings and gained nearly 40 pounds in 3 months. It has taken me 7 months to get back to my original weight (which I reached yesterday- yay!)
I eat well and exercise 6 days a week and have one day a week I can treat myself. Yesterday I had pizza and a brownie. I find these allows me to still be social while losing weight.
Post # 10
@collegebride621: Have you tried WW online? For some reason that works like crazy for me, but when I try to just track with My Fitness Pal it does not work for me. I think it’s partially that I take WW more seriously because I know I’m paying for it. I think it’s also all the free fruits and vegetables – having them be free motivates me to eat more. Seeing that an apple is 100 calories in MFP, I’m more likely to get 150 cal potato chips because there’s barely a difference. I also like that you are accountable by the week, not the day. With WW I can eat out tonight, eat less tomorrow, and I’m still on plan. I dislike that MFP tells me I’m failing if I’m even a few calories over.
So just in my experience, it makes a huge difference to my motivation HOW I track, so that may be something you want to look at for yourself. Good luck!! 🙂
Post # 11
@collegebride621: I think that the MOST challenging part of weight loss is the mindset involved with it. Picking up an apple rather than a bag of chips is the easy part. NOT seeing results right away, being hard on yourself, and having an ‘off’ day/week is the hard part. You have to have patience. You have to realize that if you binge on too many pieces of pizza, you can make the decision to make smarter choices the next day. You have to accept the scale when it climbs a pound or two after a week of weight loss, and tell yourself to just keep going.
In April, I was weighing in at 199lbs, and felt awful. I had gained about 20-30 lbs in 2+years. I made the choice to join WW online, and not only do I love it because you really can ‘eat whatever’, as long as you stay within your points, etc, but it keeps you accountable every.damn.day. Today, on my weigh-in day I am down 18.6 lbs. And although that is not even half way to where I want to be, it is still something I need to be proud of. It is enough to keep me motivating, and well, it is healthy. I know it may take me another 6 months to weigh in at my goal weight, but I cannot think that far ahead. Rather, day to day.
I also (9 weeks ago) started the couch to 5k program. I am currently running for 35+minutes straight 5 days a week! It has been an enjoyable, and yet challenging program for me, but I believe anyone can do it!!
Weight loss is a journey. There have been weeks where I stepped on the scale, and went up a pound or two, and wanted to cry. Actually, I did cry once. Somehow, however, seeing that increase made me look at this whole journey as a game. The scale won that round, but I was going to kick its ass on the next one!!! Hang in there. YOU CAN DO THIS!!
Post # 12
@TrousseauHorse: No I have not, although I have definitely considered (and am still) considering it! I agree with you about MFP – I hate that at the end of the day if I went over (even by a little bit!) it tells me I’m a failure haha.
@OUgal0004: I definitely agree with you, that’s one of my problems. I like to see immediate results and it’s frustrating that I don’t. I am considering couch to 5k as well. It kills me that I used to be able to run miles in high school when I was playing softball, and now I can barely run for a minute straight on the treadmill. Do you feel like you have seen weight loss results from it? Or only endurance results?
Post # 13
@collegebride621: Both actually! I am definitely gaining endurance. 8 weeks ago I could not run 1/4 of a mile, now I am running 3.5 no problem. And, they say anything becomes a habit after 2 weeks. Because I remained accountable via the app on my phone, I had to get out at least 3 days/week, after a few weeks, I wanted to get out more and more. My goal is to run a 1/2 marathon next summer…that is because I now I enjoy running, and beating my goals! My point, it works, if you dedicate yourself to completing the program!
With all this said, by default I have gotten thinner, toned up more, generally felt better. Not all because of the running, but also because I am eating way better too!