(Closed) FSIL and how to be polite…yet not a doormat?!

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Wedding invite for FSIL's friends?
    Invite FSIL's friends to ceremony & reception : (2 votes)
    13 %
    Invite FSIL's friends to reception only : (6 votes)
    40 %
    Invite FSIL's friends to reception after speeches : (1 votes)
    7 %
    Not invite FSIL's friends : (6 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2702 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @annaanstal:  you’re not being a bridezilla at all. I would politely say to her that you only have so much space and you are trying to keep the guest list down. If she was a friend and wouldn’t know anyone at the wedding I would say to give her a +1 but if it’s mostly her family at your wedding I don’t think it’s necessary. I don’t think this is rude at all. She needs to respect your wishes. It’s your wedding.

    It seems that she may be a little jealous. Maybe she hates the lack of attention that is taken away from her since you two are engaged. You sound like a mature individual and she’s just going to have to toughen it out.

    Good luck to you!

    Post # 4
    Member
    116 posts
    Blushing bee

    That sounds like a tough situation. I’m sorry that you have to deal with something/someone so petty on your special day. What do the FPIL say?

    This is just how I would personally deal with the situation: Your FH and his parents sound like reasonable people. Since the FPIL are paying for the reception and the wedding will consist of mostly FH family and friends, I would leave it up to them. Hopefully, you will be more focused on yourself and your FH on your wedding day and will completely forget about your immature Future Sister-In-Law. And who knows, maybe having her friends there will make her feel more comfortable and might relieve any kind of negative attitude she has about the wedding.

    But, it’s your day. If it makes you that uncomfortable, you should not invite them.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2651 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I picked invite to both. I don’t think you will honestly notice them at the ceremony and if fpil is footing the bill, then let her friends come. It might be with it just to keep the peace. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    116 posts
    Blushing bee

    @imalittlebirdie:  I agree that you probably won’t notice her friends at the ceremony. But I think inviting them to only the reception is a good compromise if you’re set on only having close friends/family there.

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