Post # 1
So my fiance has 2 sisters. We’ve agreed that they should both be in the wedding party…my question is who does the asking? I have 2 of my best friends in the wedding, so obviously I am asking them. But should he ask his sisters? Should I ask his sisters? We get along, but would not say that we are friends or besties. I feel really weird asking them myself, because I don’t see them often and it’s not really my “choice” to have them in the bridal party. It’s more like, since they’re family, they should be in the bridal party. I’m okay with them being in the wedding, but is there a good way to go about this?
Post # 3
@blurmeblue: Ask them yourself. It’ll mean more coming from you. If your Fiance asks them for you it could seem like you are asking them out of obligation.
You could also ask them via a cute note card if you don’t feel comfortable calling them.
Post # 4
If they are going to be on your side, ask them yourself! =)
I asked my Future Sister-In-Law and she was so stoked; mind you she is 15 lol! But im sure yours will be equally excited to be apart of the big day! xo
Post # 5
I asked! Although I waited until I knew we’d all be over at his parents house, I didn’t want to call or do by note. She was psyched.
Post # 6
I was in the same situation as you. I’m not particularly close to Future Sister-In-Law, but she is family so we decided to include her. I asked her myself and she was actually very excited and surprised, so I’m glad I got to have that moment with her. You should ask his sisters!
Post # 7
I didn’t ask my Future Sister-In-Law and now I don’t know what to do. I thought my bridesmaids were supposed to be my friends and I’m not close to Future Sister-In-Law. She asked Fiance about it and he got really upset…my mom says that I have to ask her now but I don’t want it to be super awkward! If I ask now it will seem like I’m asking because she asked to be asked!
Unfortunately I just didn’t realize this would be a big deal. A lot of my family is included but I have children in my family and he doesn’t, so we used them as ring bearer/flower girl etc. All of his groomsmen are his friends, and not my brothers.