(Closed) FSIL Causing Drama OR Have I Been Snubbed?

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
645 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

That sucks… But, it sounds like you went with who you “should” have in your wedding party, she went with who she wanted to have. Would you have had your fsil in your wedding if you took the obligation out? I wouldn’t. Don’t consider it a snub,  just a different way of putting together a wedding party.

Post # 4
116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I understand that you feel angry and left out, but at the end of the day it is her wedding and therefore her choice. On her part, she shouldn’t be implying to you that you would be a part of the wedding party if she knew you weren’t going to be, and she certainly should not have let you find out by text, as this is completely insensitive of her. But at the same time, she may not have realized how much it would mean to you to be a part of the bridal party.

There could be a lot of reasons why she hasn’t chosen you to be involved. It could be anything ranging from cost to tradition. There are really only two things you can do without causing problems for the whole wedding. You can either suck it up, get over it and support your hubby as the groomsmen. Either that, or (more advisably) you should talk to her. Tell her that you were under the impression that you’d be more involved and felt hurt and disappointed. She may be so caught up in rushing around planning the wedding that she might not have realized that she’d left you out. However, don’t expect her to suddenly change around all her bridal party plans to fit you in. She may have already set things up how she likes. 

I hope you get this sorted. x

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