- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2009
Where do I start with this girl?
To begin with, she is my husband’s brother’s future wife. She and my brother in law were engaged at New Years, at which time she gave me the impression that I’d be in the wedding party. She had been regularly visiting me and talking about her relationship with my BIL (which is stormy, at best). During one of these visits, she was checking out my husband’s Marine Corps picture (he was deployed at the time) and started saying how sexy he was, how sexy his lips looked in the picture. Disturbing, no?
My BIL made my husband Best Man, our other BIL a groomsmen, and included both of her siblings in the wedding party. She left out my husband’s little sister completely (a gorgeous, 6ft blonde BTW).
My husband and I were married in a small, family-only ceremony. I made my Future Sister-In-Law my maid of honor as my husband made my BIL his best man. I did it so she wouldn’t feel left out that day and because a wedding day is about the coming together of two families. (An aside: my BIL & Future Sister-In-Law failed to get us a gift or even a card for our wedding).
Being said, I understand that etiquette dictates that my Future Sister-In-Law can make whomever she wants her bridesmaids. We’re fairly close and I’ve always made nice with her. Is it odd that she didn’t include me in the wedding party? She didn’t even mention to me that I wasn’t in the wedding party — I found out through a text message 🙁 . I am hurt, bewildered, and angry. I’m not one to cause ripples in the family and planning a wedding is stressful enough. Question is: Was I snubbed?
And if so, how do I handle attending the wedding? My husband asserts I will be with him the entire time despite me explaining to him that’s not exactly how being a groomsmen works (LOL). Keep in mind that I am one of those individuals whose heart is always plainly on their sleeve, I am not very good at hiding how I truly feel despite my best efforts to do so.
Please help, Bees!