posted 10 years ago in Family
Post # 3
575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wowza! I’d have a few choice words for your SIL. But that aside…

If I were in your shoes, I would move forward as planned and keep your future in-laws out of it. You’re in a crappy situation but you can’t let Future Sister-In-Law throw you. Let your families decide what they can afford and don’t worry about it. Your wedding will be special because it’s your’s. No one can take that from you.

Post # 5
1395 posts
Bumble bee

Wow, sounds like your Future Sister-In-Law is a real piece of work.  I know that a lot of people will say that you “only have one day”, which is totally true, but it is sad that your Fiance is going to miss out on some of his loved ones being there.  I never think it is a good idea for two siblings to get married close together.

What really pisses me off about all of this is the fact that this girl has shamelessly stolen all of your details!  Even the shoestrings?  I mean, come on! 

I have not had to deal with this sort of situation… knock on wood… and I hope that I never do.

Just make sure that you NEVER tell any specific details to anyone else in your FI’s family.  They only need to know the date and time.  They don’t need to know colors, tux styles, flowers, NOTHING!

Post # 6
1736 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Question? Who put their invite out first? You guys her her?  If it was me, since I am vindictive like this, (shame face)  i would get my invites out and back, wayyyyy before hers.  And I would neglect to give her one untill the last moment. Oops…. It must have gotten lost in the mail.

Post # 8
17 posts

I was in your shoes at the start of my wedding planning too. My FH brother is getting marry two months before us and we live in the same state but my wedding is in NJ where my parents live. At first my Future Brother-In-Law fiancee and i started discussing ideas but it same that she liked everything that i like so, I stop talking to her. Now, I dont tell her shit and I change all my ideas and not discussing it to any family member.

Post # 12
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I guess imitation is the most sincere form of flattery? 

I would be totally P-O aswell, it all seems very strange. My Future Sister-In-Law actually also got engaged after us, but the first thing she said was “don’t worry I’m going to start planning after your wedding, I don’t want to steal the spotlight from you guys”. So to hear a sister (and family) acting how you’ve described is quite disheartening. 

If I were you, I would just go on with my planning, keep his family out of it, and enjoy my wedding!! It will be fabulous no matter what!

Good Luck!

Post # 14
2639 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

If the weddings are two months apart, people can go to both. My FI’s family has weddings in April, July, and August. The guest lists don’t overlap for all of them, but regardless- I can’t imagine one of his aunts or uncles saying “we can’t go to both weddings”- unless someone really is strapped financially, I wouldn’t worry too much about them- thankfully you sent your save the dates out, so as a guest I would plan on attending your wedding first, anyway.

Has/would Fiance call his sister out on some of this? The shoe laces would have been the last straw for me. She seems incredibly jealous and selfish (and I could think of a few other things, but I’ll behave.)

Keep your date, keep the details to your family, and you’ll have a fantastic day! 🙂 

Post # 15
3389 posts
Sugar bee

I would talk to that little missy!

And keep on planning the wedding with that side of the family, a “fake wedding” that is… Let her spend all the money on what she thinks is supposed to be your theme… and surprise the bunch that comes to your wedding with YOUR real wedding!

I know – a lot of work planning 2 weddings, a fake one and a real one…

Post # 16
44 posts

wow what a peice of work!! But like someone else said takle it as a compliment that she thinks all of your ideas are so wonderful she has to copy! Laughing

I would also remember why you are getting married and it is to spend the rest of your life with your Fiance. Well by the sounds of it she’s just doen all this on the bounce and off the back of ending the relationship only a few days earlier, more than likely her relationship will not last the distance. Unfortunately you will have to keep your planning to yourself but just think what a lovely surprise it’ll be for his family when they see what you’e produced!!

I hope she stops being such a nightmare and that you have a wonderful day regardless of he spectical!


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