- 7 years ago
- Wedding: January 2012
Hi, so I have a kind of weird situation… I hope someone can relate.
My Fiance and are not having either of our siblings in our wedding, we wanted to have a small bridal party (one attendant each) to keep things simple. I offered (to him) to invite his sister to be a bridesmaid and he said that it didn’t matter and not to worry about it.
Last night talking with his family I said that maybe his sister would like to do a reading. They all sort of balked and said, no, she would be nervous and talk to fast and some other stuff I don’t really recall.
I feel like she’s being shut out by her own family and I don’t really get it. She is in her 20’s, lives 1,500 miles away has a great job she loves and is, you know, an adult. I’ve known her since she was in high school (FI and I have been dating for a long time) and her family has always treated her with kid gloves, like they have to shield her from everything.
I adore her, I think she’s funny and interesting and completely lovable. I know her family loves her too but I think they don’t really respect her. I wish she wasn’t treated like such an outsider.
We’re not super close, and I couldn’t really talk to her about this because she would repeat everything back to her mother which would be a disaster. But I want to do something to make her included on our special day.