(Closed) FSIL hates me, help! -long

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Loulou22:  Ignore her. She is jealous of you for superficial reasons. OF COURSE her brother can not love and adore her the same way he does you: that’s incest!! She is projecting her misrable life onto you and it’s not fair whatsover. Be thankful your Future Mother-In-Law and Fiance are on YOUR side and see her behavior for what it is.

For the record, DO NOT let her into your bridal party whatsoever.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Loulou22:  I totally agree with what the previous poster said.  IGNORE HER

Do not let this “child” ruin what should be a very wonderful and special time in your life.  She needs to focus on her husband and child.

Do not let her in the wedding party.  Do not include her in the wedding planning.  Focus on your soon to be Fiance, be kind to his parents and let his sister just keep proving what an ass she is.

Good luck and keep us posted!

 

 

Post # 5
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1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Be nice to her when you see her and ignore her when she is being unkind.She sounds terrible.sorry!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

She is cray cray. Ignore her. I cant believe she is older than 5. What a child. 

Post # 7
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986 posts
Busy bee

Ignoreeeee herrrrrr! Not worth the effort, or drama. If she’s going to be jealous, let that be her burden. 

Post # 8
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11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Be civil when you have to and otherwise just live your life. She sounds like a spoiled, jealous brat.

Also…she’s mad because her brother doesn’t adore and treat her like he does you? That’s creepy.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Ewww….that’s just wierd.  At first I thought that maybe she was trying to spousify your Fiance, but then you said she had a husband of her own.  That’s way creepy.

Post # 10
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Loulou22:  Eh, chalk it up to her being crazy (this situation makes me think of Teresa and Joe from Jersey housewives…. it’s kind of gross).  There are some people in life that you can’t please, just know that.  Don’t EXPECT her to be crazy happy for you guys when you announce your engagement and don’t harp on all the crap she is likely to spew.  Just ingore her and forge onward!

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Ignore her – stay classy, just say ‘hi’ when you see her and that’s it.  Forget about it and don’t let it get to you.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Justt ignore that biatch, she sounds like a child. 

Post # 14
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Loulou22:  DO you think she would be up for family counseling? 

I get it, it’s really hard.  My Mother-In-Law can be like that at times (WEIRD!!!  She called my husband’s penis his “Little Mister” once.  Hahah, I’m cracking up just thinking about.  Hopefully you can at least get a laugh at my expense!).

I think you need to start to understand that there are a lot of things you can’t control, especially when it comes to family and ILs.  What you can control is how you respond to it (sounds so cliche, but Lord if it isn’t true!).  You have to commit to accepting this and live it and believe it.  Otherwise you will make yourself crazy with anxiety and worry.  Which is unwarranted and totally not worth it.

If your Mother-In-Law wants her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, too bad Mother-In-Law.  “MIL, I appreciate your concern but I will not choose SIL to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.  Given our past, I hope you can understand.  Ultimately this is my choice and it’s not up for discussion.”  END IT THERE!  No need to explain or give all your reasons why your SIL is the devil and she shouldn’t be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.  That’s it.  And understand and ACCEPT that some choices (espcially a choice like this) comes with consequences.  But hold your head up high and DO NOT reneg.  You will catch heat for not asking her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.  Oh well!  It’s the lesser of two evils, right?  Because the other option would be giving in and having this psycho-nut case who doesn’t like you standing by you on your day?  No thanks, I’ll take the alternative!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Ugh, sounds awful.  Just ignore her and hope for the best.  The whole situation sounds ridiculous 🙁

Post # 16
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@JemmaWRX:  I also want to add… sometimes you have to take PERSONAL SATISFACTION in knowing YOU did the right thing, that YOU are the better person, that YOU are the sane one.  Not everyone is going to recognize it or appreciate it or give you an “Atta girl” with a pat on the back.  You need to take solace in knowing you’ve tried to make things right.  Beyond that, the ball is in her court.

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