- Crazy Bee
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Oh the relationship that is the in-laws: sometimes fun, sometimes overbearing and sometimes straight up rude, selfish and inconsiderate!
As the subject line suggests the bone I have to pick here is with my Future Sister-In-Law (soon to be fiance’s brother’s girlfriend). I have recently found out via my FFI that she is jealous of me (although I’ve always suspected this)…thinks that FFI family likes me better than her, that I spend more time with them and am their “favourite”. It’s not my fault that my FFI actually invites me over more often (a lot more often than her) but yet I’m made out to be the problem here!
She can sometimes be so nice to me (fake nice, clearly) and other times be so rude in a passive-agressive way by not including me in activities or ignoring me if we are all out together, which is rare. What’s more, I’ve noticed FFI’s brother (her BF) has these mood swings with me too…he can be so nice when she’s not around or isn’t about to see her or talking to her on the phone (apparently this is an issue they fight about a lot) in the recent past but when she’s there, its like he deliberately acts rude-doesn’t acknowledge my presence or neglects to engage me in conversation, even though I try to be polite, friendly and talkative (or used to). Now, I just feel like its a lost battle so I don’t even make the effort.
Sometimes, I just wish those two would break up (then my problem would be sovled!!) but then I realize that its a mean thought-although they haven’t had the best history so it is a definite possibility. I don’t know how to fix this situation, I want nothing more than to have a positive relationship with my future in-laws but how can I do that when there’s so much jealousy and negativity surrounding me!?? I haven’t done anything wrong except be there! Any suggestions Bees? I have tried to be nice and even try to not be in positions where it would appear that I’m the “favourtite” it seems nothing works …there is so much anger in her that I see it seep through her fake smile! UGH!