(Closed) FSIL invited me to hens night party I said no heres the outcome (Vent)

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

Sorry to hear about all the stress and pain!

Does your Future Sister-In-Law have a lot of friends?  Maybe she’s worried that no one will come to her party…

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I would remind them that it’s not a hop and skip away.  And the last minute timing of the invite arriving doesn’t exactly let you plan accordingly.  Can’t blame you, especially since she seems to be taking this too extreme in my opinion.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Wow after reading this and your other post about her she sounds……umm interesting. Albany to Perth is a huge drive (I’m assuming she’s in Perth based on the 4 hour drive), especially just for one night and I think that any sane and rational person would see that your reasons are very valid. I agree with Mr Bee though, maybe she is scared of having nobody at the party….if this is how she treats everyone maybe it would explain why she is scared of that.

 

I hope this situation starts to get less stressful for you. Have a wine, relax and spend time on yourslef. Don’t let her pettyness get you too down (even though you may want to stab her in the eye with a sharp pencil!!).

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

oh my, thats pretty extreme. 4hrs is a lot to drive, especially so close to the wedding. so sorry this is so stressful! i’d be mad too

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

suuuuuuuuuuuucky

Did he explain to her that you can’t go because 1) you received your invitation LATE and 2) it’s a FOUR hour drive? and 3) you don’t really drink

she’s being petty. Maybe you could talk directly with her instead of making your bro being the poor messenger? She might not be so direct/mean if she has to say it directly to you (on the phone)!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Umm..passive aggressive much having your brother be the one to call you.  If she really has an issue she should be the one talking to you, not having your poor brother get stuck in the middle, I mean, you are going to be family!  Honestly, I would say give her a call, or if she has your brother call you again, have him tell her that you’d like to speak to her directly to explain why you can’t make it to the party.  Things get so misconstrued sometimes when they are communicated via third party.  Maybe if you guys actually spoke to one another about it, she’d think differently.  At any rate…girl needs to grow up!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I can’t believe he’s even be putting up with it! If this is what she is like now, imagine what the rest of his married life is going to be like. I hope he is having one hell of a bucks night to say goodbye to not being permanently stuck to her!

 

Mmmmmm wine always helps to numb feelings. But, when that wears out remember you now have 12 really sharp pencils!

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Is she annoyed because you called her brother to say you weren’t going? Cuz that would probably irritate me. I like people to call ME, not relay info through me.

That being said, if she puts her foot down about the photography, leave your camera home! Tough noogies!

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper

Charis, you make me so happy. I love how drama free you are, despite all the drama in your life. 🙂

Maybe it’s a good thing the bottle is empty….. just make sure you’ve got plenty of full ones to get you through the next two weeks!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

Haha I can’t believe THAT’s what she chose to freak out about! That’s kind of an ungrateful, bratty thing to be mad about. Glad you’re talking it so well… you can’t change people, especially hormonal ones!

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