- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
Let me start off by saying this is about money and in no way what-so-ever do I care about the money because it’s not mine, for me it’s the principal/offense. We’ll make FI=H, FSIL=B, and her husband=M.
Backstory: B is older than H by four years, just so you know. They had this grandma who was amazing with money and always had plenty. They knew from a young age they would be getting a nice inheiritance. Grandma got sick in her old age and started making bad decisions/people started trying to take advantage of her. B and H decided B should have power of attorney because H travels a lot for work and wouldn’t be able to be there right away, also B has a degree in accounting. B and M took care of her full time, neither have a job, and it was pretty commonly known that they were using her money for themselves, but no one said anything. Last year grandma passed away. Her will stated things to be spilt between B and H evenly, but since it was an older version H’s would go into a trust fund until he turned 30. Most of this comes from a rental.
H’s money was supposed to be spilt before anyone touched it, but I guess that’s not the case and B was doing it herself or so H thought. Something must have made H suspicious because he called me the other day saying he got her to admit that she has been taking his half of the rent checks and spending them. He told her she didn’t have to pay it all back just a lump sum of $4000 and then he gets his checks right away from now on. He didn’t say how long she has been doing this, but the grandma has been dead for a year (sorry that’s so blunt) and when doing the math it comes out to $30000!
I told him, before doing the math, that I would make her pay it all back. He doesn’t want them to be broke and says that they took in two kids they shouldn’t have (making four kids total) and with neither B or Mhaving a job he doesn’t want them in the poor house. The thing if this was reversed he would expect me to get the full amount back. I told him it wasn’t about the money, we could be talking about shoes for all I care and I still wouldn’t think it was fair. His grandma meant for them to be equal and split it evenly between them, she didn’t do it based on economic standing or the size of the families. He doesn’t want to look like an a-hole for making her pay it back and is afraid if he did that is what his whole family would think. I told him if they knew she basically stole it in the first place then I don’t think anyone would think he was.
Like I said I really don’t care about the money. We don’t need the money, it was just something nice that we were planning on taking a trip with once he turned 30. I can’t see how he can just let it go. I think he’s being unfair to himself and I’m outraged that she would do this to her own brother. Vent over, I guess…