(Closed) FSIL mad about not being in wedding

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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4824 posts
Honey bee

I’m not really seeing her behavior as bad. Just inconsiderate. How about asking her to do a reading and explain you thought not asking her to be a bm was a favor due to the cost involved and time commitment.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Could you ask her to be a part of the wedding and not a part of the bridal party? Perhaps a hostess greeting guests?

I can’t imagine the pressure of having someone wanting to be in your wedding and you not choosing them. Asking girls that are close to you and have formed a solid relationship with should be in your bridal party. It’s a very personal choice and no none should ever feel like they HAVE to included them. You should choose who you want and not question your choice. Weddings are stressful enough (believe me, I know) without feeling obligated. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee

She is your future family and you want to preserve that relationship as best as possible especially since you ‘used’ to like her. Weddings are emotional times and temporary. It’s what happens after that is most important.

Twowrongs don’t make a right. Not including her will make it worse.

You be the ‘woman’ and nicely ask her if she is upset for some reasonbecause you are getting that vibe. You will likely surprise her and she will either tell you so you can talk it out or she will realize her behavior is being Noticed and feel embarrassed and change it. 

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