Post # 1
My apologies if this gets a little long. Background: my SO has an older sister who is married with two kids aged 3 and 5. FSIL has a tendency to be a little bit of a drama queen sometimes but for the most part she is pretty awesome and we all get along.
So here starts the drama from today… The kids are constantly using everyone’s iPhone and iPad whenever they are around, they have certain apps that they like and know how to use pretty much everything. My Future Sister-In-Law complains all the time that she never gets to use her phone because one of the kids always has it.
My iPhone just broke, the lock button isn’t working so its still functional but I decided to order a new one. So since I know Future Sister-In-Law and her husband are sick of never being able to use their phones because the kids are always playing with them, my SO said I should just give my old phone to them. I can’t sell it and I already have an iPod Touch so I figured that was a good idea.
So yesterday I texted Future Sister-In-Law and asked her if she wants my old iPhone for the kids to use on wifi for apps and music (the kids LOVE music!) I said the lock button doesn’t work so I can’t sell it and I would just be throwing it out otherwise. She took a while to get back to me and she just said “no thanks”. Ok, that’s fine. Not a big deal at all! I decided to keep it and use it as a spare iPod for myself.
I didn’t even think about it again at all then today my guy gets a call from his sister and she is pissed at us for offering the phone!! She said its not up to us to decide when her kids get a cell phone and since we are not parents, we have no right to make those decisions. Um, what?!
I get that but it’s not like we were buying them phones with plans, we offered them a broken phone to play with! I totally respect her position for not wanting it and that’s totally fine but did she really need to go off at her brother over it?! They live 8 hrs away so it’s not like the kids have any idea that we offered them the phone so it’s not like they have been disappointed. I just don’t get why this turned into such a huge issue..
Is this strange to anyone else?
ETA: I also told her when I offered it to her that it would only be able to be used for apps because it won’t have a SIM card. I had no intention of the kids using it as an actual phone.
Post # 3
Wow! Overreaction much? She could’ve just left it at “No thanks.” It’s not like you pushed the issue.
Post # 4
@orchidaloha: That is super strange.. She’s being ridiculous. It’s not like you were at her house and just gave her kids the phone. You ASKED HER first!! She should’ve appreciated the gesture, declined and left it at that.
Post # 5
Thanks ladies, you made me feel better! I’m mostly just confused because it seems like a super odd reaction from someone, especially the next day!
My SO told her she’s being a drama queen and she hung up on him… Now he’s super pissed. Fun times!
Post # 7
@orchidaloha: Um… Strange is right. When Fiance upgraded his iPhone we did the exact same thing and let my 5 year old and 2 year old have it. They think its super fun and we don’t have to give up ours anymore.
I think it was a nice gesture.
Post # 8
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I wouldn’t worry too much about it. It sounds like miscommunication (common with texting/emails) or her just being overly dramatic. I would just apologize to keep the peace, something like :I’m sorry if it seemed that I was offering your kids a cell phone, but I thought they might enjoy a device to play games on. If you ever change your mind it is there.” I think that she is being a little silly – it’s not like you just went and gave the kids it, you did ask her before giving the kids the broken phone.
Post # 9
@sunshine_kar: thank you, I thought so too!
Post # 10
That’s so weird – she could maybe be mad if you offered it to the kids and she had to say no, but you asked her!
Post # 11
@orchidaloha: you didn’t give her kids the phone, you asked your Future Sister-In-Law if they could have it. It sounds like she is really overreacting.
Post # 12
She overreacted and she should apologize for being so rude!
Post # 13
My exact text was “Hey, I just ordered a new phone and we were wondering if the kids would like my old one?? Obviously not to use as a phone, more like an iPod Touch. There’s no SIM card in it and the lock button is broken. We thought they might like it for apps and listening to music.”
Post # 14
wow – that’s a bit of an overreaction. It would be different if you’d offered to buy them a phone.
Post # 15
She is being stupid . When I first read the title of your post I thought maybe you had circumvented her and offered the phone directly to the children, which would be inappropriate. You didn’t do that.
Post # 16
WOW talk about overreaction. 🙁