(Closed) FSIL my bridesmaid, is driving me crazy!!! opinions needed…

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My photographer advised on 2 hours, but I have a relatively small wedding party.

Post # 6
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I did my pictures before the ceremony and then family pictures immediately after and it probably took 1.5 hours total.  Everything was on site though so you would have to factor in travel times.  I think that most people who do a church wedding followed by offsite reception typically do family pictures at the church and then the wedding party / bride groom at different locations before the reception.

Post # 7
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

if you are set on not doing a first look, you can at least do family photos and those with your bridesmaids ahead of time

Post # 9
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

@Bostonsmom: Based on your time schedule, I think that’s absolutely doable. You can get some photos like the ones with your bridesmaids and your parents out of the way before the ceremony, and do everything else in between. Just have a shot list of must haves available, and inform the people who are a part of that shot list where to be so that things can move very smoothly.

Post # 10
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I had a tiny wedding party, and they’re all family (My sister and SIL, his brother and my brother) so we killed two birds with one stone for a lot of it. Still, it did take a long time. We spent an hour before the wedding taking pictures with family, and then over an hour after the wedding taking family pictures we didn’t have time for and pictures of just me and him. And I still felt like I would have liked more pictures.

Post # 11
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Me? I’d tell my Future Sister-In-Law to stuff it. 😀  But then… I also HAVE a SIL and have never minded giving her my opinion, even before she married my brother (much to their annoyance, hehehehehe)

However, I’d say since you’re using a planner, they would know the best timeline to give and if that’s what she/he said, that’s what will happen. That’s why you have one,right? 😉

As for me?  We’re having a short ceremony and huge party, so wedding photos will probably be done BEFORE the ceremony so we can have the fun photos of during the party!  We also have only a few “required” shots, so the rest will be up to the photographer… who loves being creative. 

good luck!!!  and hopefully you can figure out a way to stop her from being so annoying. 🙂

Post # 13
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I think you need to start embracing the idea of telling Future Sister-In-Law “Thanks!” or “Thanks for the idea!” or “I’ll keep that in mind”.  Then smile and change the subject or leave the room.

You’ve pegged her as someone who will give her opinion no matter what – and chances are – that’s not going to change between now and the wedding (unfortunately).

What you have to learn to do – is cut her off at the pass.  Don’t prolong the conversation by getting into a discussion with her about it.  Trust me – I didn’t think something so simple would work with these types – BUT IT DOES!

As for pictures – 1 1/2 hours is enough time.  It really depends on what kinds of pictures you wanted.  I did all my ‘wedding party’ shots pre-wedding (it took about 20 minutes max).  These were just pictures of me and my besties.  We did a couple shots post-ceremony with my hubby and my friends hubbies.  That’s all I wanted.  We set aside 1 1/2-2 hours to do all family shots and all couple shots (we didn’t see each other before the ceremony) and it was plenty of time.

The key is to make sure the people in the pictures know to stick around post-ceremony.

Our ceremony/reception was in the same location – but I still had missing family/friends who ran up to the cocktail hour or to use the restroom.  That held us back, slightly – but I just ended up taking pictures with people that were there and didn’t worry about it.  My ‘essential’ pictures were taken care of, and that’s really what I cared most about.

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