Post # 1
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Busy Beekeeper
I have or will have once we are married 3 sister n laws. One is already a SIL my brothers wife we will call A. The other two will become my SIL’s once we get married.
SIL A, my family really doesn’t talk to my brother and his wife. I am inviting all my SIL’s to the bridal shower. A, more than likely will not come because of not having a relationship with my family.
Future Sister-In-Law B, she lives in another state about a 10 to 12 hour drive. I don’t expect her to come for the bridal shower, it would be nice if she came but more than likely she won’t due to how far away she lives.
Future Sister-In-Law C, lives about 20 minutes away from us and will be about 5 min away where my bridal shower will be. Future Sister-In-Law C, has a different personality than me we get along for the most part. However, I have an issue with her and I’m not sure how to handle.
Future Sister-In-Law C and her hubby and kids are going for a family vacation after our wedding for a month to Greece. Future Sister-In-Law and her youngest are planning on going to Greece once before the family month long vacation for about 2 weeks. And she just so happen to book the first trip and will be gone for my bridal shower. This is where I am little upset with. Normally I wouldn’t have a problem with if this trip was a once in a lifetime trip, however she is going twice within couple months of each other!
I know she didn’t plan the trip to spite me but it makes me feel really sad that my only bridal shower and none of my sister in laws will be there. Makes me feel like I don’t count in this family.
Future Sister-In-Law C had emailed me on this, and I need to respond but am not sure how to because I don’t want to start world war 3 here. So if you were in my shoes how would you respond back?
Post # 3
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311 posts
Helper bee
I can see how you would feel slighted because it seems like she chose the trip over your shower even though she knew your shower was at that time. Did she really know the shower was going to be on that specific date?
The only thing you can say is to let her know that you are sad that she won’t be able to make the shower and that you looked forward to having her there. Unfortunately, other people’s priorities are different than what yours are and no one’s wedding and events leading up to it are as important to everyone else as they are to you.
Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
Let’s see now. I have the opportunity to go to Greece for two weeks or attend the shower of my future sister-in-law who I will see all the time. I pick Greece.
Even though she will be going again soon, I doubt that I would expect her to choose my shower over another trip to Greece.
Send her your best wishes for a great trip and move on.
Post # 5
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5891 posts
Bee Keeper
@julies1949: exactly what i was thinking.
Post # 6
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389 posts
Helper bee
I agree with what julies1949 said. I would just e-mail my Future Sister-In-Law and let her know I completely understand, tell her to have fun in Greece, and let her know that her presence at the wedding/reception is what’s most important. If it were my Future Sister-In-Law, I wouldn’t want her to feel guilty about her family vacation.
Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
@julies1949: Again I would totally understand if said trip was just a once in a lifetime deal, however they are also going after our wedding for a month to Greece. The only reason she is going for two weeks before hand is to check out some places out. And she did know when the bridal shower is before booking this trip. I let them know way ahead of time so my sister n laws, mother n law and other family members would be able to come.
