(Closed) FSIL not sure what to do

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I can see how you would feel slighted because it seems like she chose the trip over your shower even though she knew your shower was at that time.  Did she really know the shower was going to be on that specific date?

The only thing you can say is to let her know that you are sad that she won’t be able to make the shower and that you looked forward to having her there.  Unfortunately, other people’s priorities are different than what yours are and no one’s wedding and events leading up to it are as important to everyone else as they are to you. 


Post # 4
47430 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Let’s see now. I have the opportunity to go to Greece for two weeks or attend the shower of my future sister-in-law who I will see all the time. I pick Greece.

Even though she will be going again soon, I doubt that I would expect her to choose my shower over another trip to Greece.

Send her your best wishes for a great trip and move on.

Post # 6
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree with what julies1949 said.  I would just e-mail my Future Sister-In-Law and let her know I completely understand, tell her to have fun in Greece, and let her know that her presence at the wedding/reception is what’s most important.  If it were my Future Sister-In-Law, I wouldn’t want her to feel guilty about her family vacation.

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