(Closed) FSIL planning wedding a month before mine

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: Is my FSIL being inconsiderate

    Yes

    No

  • Post # 32
    Member
    1476 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    These weddings are two seperate events. Take a deep breath and say ‘The world does not revolve around me.’ Because that’s how you’re acting. You’re coming off as petty 10 year old child. 

    Post # 34
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    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    While I think it was something she should have considered, I do agree that you’re overreacting a bit.  Don’t talk to her about it or bring it up, OR let this come between you two.  You didn’t really indicate what your relationship with her is like, but if it were me, I’d let it simmer for awhile, and truly just try to get over it.  Like other bees have mentioned, her wedding is a whole month before yours, which leaves plenty of time for you to make absolutely sure that your wedding is way better and much more fun 😉  Don’t let something like this ruin your wedding day or planning.

    Post # 35
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    6262 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    Just let it go. The date has significance to her, and your family is capable of thinking about two weddings at once. It’s not that big a deal, it’s not like it’s the week before.

    Post # 36
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    155 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    This wedding date is important to her. It will be several years before her parents wedding anniversary lands on a Saturday again. She is not doing this to spite you. And I hate to break it to you but the parents of the Bride always do more for their daughter’s than the parents of the groom does for their son. The fact that your wedding’s are close is irrelevant. They will probably pay for your rehersal dinner (as is their tradional role). On the other hand they may pay thousands of dollars towards her wedding. Don’t get upset about it. Don’t think if it as money that would have been spent on your wedding if she weren’t getting married at the same time. Because it isn’t. Even if she weren’t engaged they would probably still only pay for your rehearsal dinner. Be thankful that they help you with anything. In this day and age it is the responsibility of the bride and groom to cover their own expenses. Any parental contribution is gravy.

    Post # 37
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    4951 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Your being angry is understandable, but I thnk you’re angry for the wrong reasons. “She’s going to steal my thunder” is childish, but worrying about certain guests being able to make both weddings is not. 

    Post # 38
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    4027 posts
    Honey bee

    Like other’s have said, you get one day, not a whole month. I just realized that I have planned my wedding for just 4 weeks after my cousin’s wedding. Both of us live away from our immediate families (which all live in the same town in Cali), so travel will be involved for all of our family members for both weddings.

    We actually both got engaged about 1 week apart and decided on dates before talking to each other. I have been with my Fiance for 9 years and really wanted to get married just before our 10 year anniversary and it was the only time that worked in the summer because I work for a year- round middle school. There are a few family members that will probably have to chose one wedding or the other, but I am ok with whatever decision they make. I honestly do not know what she thinks about it, but the reality is we both picked dates that worked for our personal lives.

    Yes it can be annoying, but the world will go on regardless….

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