(Closed) FSIL problems

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
578 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012


I feel ya on the hating thing. I always thought my Future Sister-In-Law hated me but after 5 years it was brought up one day with Fiance and he simply said it was because she was trying to figure me out and she was just protective.   But yours sound evil I am so sorry your going thru this.  I would ask your Fiance if he could talk to her so it takes some pressure of you. Mine has no problem talking to his sister but I dont know their relationship. Hope things get better for you!

Post # 5
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am sorry you are stressing about this, but according to your profile you aren’t getting married for another 5 years. In my opinion, I suggest that you stop talking about the wedding with her and try to build a relationship with her instead. You might be surprised what can happen in 5 years.

Post # 6
2394 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010


I would say it’s time for your Fiance to have a talk with Sister Dearest to explain that those kinds of comments are completely unacceptable and very hurtful to the two of you.

If you can do it without ruffling lots of feathers, I’d also disinvite her from being a bridesmaid.  She certainly doesn’t sound like someone you’d want standing up with you on such a special day.

Post # 10
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It sounds like anything you do short of calling off the wedding is going to anger her, but maybe you could say, “If you feel like this wedding is too much hassle, I’d understand if you didn’t want to be my bridesmaid. But if you’re happy to do it, then of course you are still welcome!”? Maybe she’ll take you up on it??

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