- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Dear Future Sister-In-Law,
I’m not sure why you thought trying to manipulate my sister/MOH would get you any additional places of honor in my wedding. Thanks for complaining that my mother has “planned everything” and that is why you are entitled to throw my shower and have it be how you want–you know, despite that being a lie and that you are aware I don’t want a shower. My grandmother planned my mom’s entire wedding, my mom is scarred from it, and refuses to give her opinion out of fear of influencing me–I told you this, so I’m not sure why you thought insulting my mom and painting her as taking over the wedding would work. Why you thought my sister wouldn’t tell me, or that I wouldn’t tell Fiance, I don’t understand.
You have already tried to get me to make you Maid/Matron of Honor instead of my own sister because my sister will be wearing a suit instead of a dress–WTF were you thinking? My sister is my best friend, and you and I are not close. I made you a bridesmaid, but apparently that doesn’t “honor” you enough. You are doing a reading in the ceremony but apparently that also isn’t enough. Now you insist on being a witness to sign the marriage license…without asking if we had already asked anyone, or would like to give that honor to someone who has not been asked to be a part of the ceremony yet. I’ll let this one slide, so that I can make it clear you will NOT be giving a speech at the wedding–nor will we honor your request for a brother-sister dance with a spotlight, especially since your brother, Fiance, does not feel that close to you either.
Please stop asking if your boyfriend will be made a groomsman should he propose. Fiance has met him one time and did not like him. He means nothing to us, we already have asked and dressed the bridal party, and we are not asking any of the siblings’ SOs to be in it because I wanted a small bridal party. Let it go, this day is not about you.
Yes, I am keeping my name. No, I am not doing a garter toss. I really don’t care how much you looked forward to either one. No matter how many times I tell you I’m 100% comfortable in those choices, you don’t seem to let it go. And then immediately calling Fiance to see if he is aware of the “situation” is moronic. Of course he knows. Of course he supports me. He hates garter tosses too, and he loves my beautiful last name and wants me to keep it.
I really used to enjoy your company and thought we would be friends and close one day. However, you are showing yourself to be selfish, manipulative, and not someone I care to spend much time with. I hope that after the wedding, things go back to normal, but I am one to hold a grudge. Sorry about that, I’ll be kind and civil but I will never see you as my sister (and definitely not as more of a sister than my REAL sister).
Your Future Sister-In-Law, the strong-willed woman you’ve known for 7 plus years but apparently are just learning that you can’t push around AKA the person your brother loves and will always stand by in the face of your craziness