(Closed) FSIL wants to attend bach party she wasn't invited to…

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 76
1684 posts
Bumble bee

I would not respond anymore and let bride know. Clearly there is something not ok.

I would also send a quick email to confirm details with the other guests that way if fsil happens to figure out who is invitedshe’s can’t confuse anyone with details of a competing party. Do not mention the craziness going on with fsil tho. That should be kept btwn you and bride unless she decides to share it with her friends. Don’t want the spotlight to go from bride to her very off fsil.

Post # 77
2185 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I agree that in this case the Future Sister-In-Law should not be invited (and probably ignored), given her bizarre and unbalanced behavior. Just as a side note, you seem oddly contemptuous of this woman’s age. Being 41 has nothing to do with her behavior or whether she should be invited to a bachelor party. She was probably this way at 25.

Post # 79
392 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

In-laws should not recieve an automatic invitation to a bachelorette party. Politeness may call for them to be invited to the bridal shower but the two events have two totally different “flavors” happening. Why would the bride or Maid/Matron of Honor want an obnoxious in-law to attend and report back (or let’s call it what it really would be — gossip) to the rest of the family a minute by minute account of the events?!?  

At the end of the day, everyone invited to the wedding should not be invited to the bridal shower and even fewer people should be invited to the bachelorette party….otherwise these events turn into a spectacle. 

Update: Just read some more of the post…yikes Future Sister-In-Law is a clinger!!! Scary! However I stand by what I wrote above with or without that added info. 

Post # 80
347 posts
Helper bee

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cmbr :  I agree with the illness too.  I too feel sorry for her.  She must feel so alone.

Post # 81
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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knickergold :  She stalked you to find your email by contacting your grad school? Who does that? What a nut case!

Post # 82
7640 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Wow, this just gets weirder. In future definitely just ignore the emails and pass them on to the bride and her fiance to deal with.

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