Post # 76
I would not respond anymore and let bride know. Clearly there is something not ok.
I would also send a quick email to confirm details with the other guests that way if fsil happens to figure out who is invitedshe’s can’t confuse anyone with details of a competing party. Do not mention the craziness going on with fsil tho. That should be kept btwn you and bride unless she decides to share it with her friends. Don’t want the spotlight to go from bride to her very off fsil.
Post # 77
I agree that in this case the Future Sister-In-Law should not be invited (and probably ignored), given her bizarre and unbalanced behavior. Just as a side note, you seem oddly contemptuous of this woman’s age. Being 41 has nothing to do with her behavior or whether she should be invited to a bachelor party. She was probably this way at 25.
Post # 78
Yes, I’ve let the bride know, she said she didn’t realize how bad this was and is having Fiance handle from here on out.
She also couldn’t stop laughing at the ‘best friend’ comment… Apparently FI’s sister and Sister in Law do not get along and have been in a competition (that only the sister seems to know about) to ‘get’ Bride, as if she can not be friends with two people. Bride told me about a few comments she made at/after the shower that confirm this thinking.
the situation is pretty funny, but the fact that the lady is so delusional is pretty sad. I’ve only met her oldest child (the 24yo) and he’s pretty weird, so I kinda am starting to see why he might be that way. Hopefully the other 4 are more resilient!
Post # 79
In-laws should not recieve an automatic invitation to a bachelorette party. Politeness may call for them to be invited to the bridal shower but the two events have two totally different “flavors” happening. Why would the bride or Maid/Matron of Honor want an obnoxious in-law to attend and report back (or let’s call it what it really would be — gossip) to the rest of the family a minute by minute account of the events?!?
At the end of the day, everyone invited to the wedding should not be invited to the bridal shower and even fewer people should be invited to the bachelorette party….otherwise these events turn into a spectacle.
Update: Just read some more of the post…yikes Future Sister-In-Law is a clinger!!! Scary! However I stand by what I wrote above with or without that added info.
Post # 80
I agree with the illness too. I too feel sorry for her. She must feel so alone.
Post # 81
She stalked you to find your email by contacting your grad school? Who does that? What a nut case!
Post # 82
Wow, this just gets weirder. In future definitely just ignore the emails and pass them on to the bride and her fiance to deal with.