(Closed) FSIL wants to have joint bridal shower???

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

It might be bridezilla of me to say this but that is ridiculous. She’ll end up with another shower in October/November anyway, is there a particular reason or advantage to having your shower together?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I don’t think it’s unreasonable at all.  How do your ILs feel about it?

Perhaps broaching the idea that it might be more fun for her to have her own shower where she can be queen for a day might be a good tactic?  Or bring up the fact that it can be tough on people to spring for two gifts, and she may not be registered in time, anyway.

Whatever you do, don’t respond via text or e-mail.  Voice on voice contact will go a long way toward keeping things civil.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would tell her no, it would make more sense if she had hers closer to her wedding date. 

Post # 7
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159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I would say no. She can have her shower later. Do you think it’s because her family planned it?

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Joint showers arent a good idea… I would say no to this

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t think a joint shower is a good idea. But. maybe you two can have a joint  engagement party (if you didn’t have one yourself.) I think it is really nice that your Future Sister-In-Law wants to celebrate with you, (honestly I am jealous, my Future Sister-In-Law isn’t willing to share “her time” with me.)

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m not a fan of this idea either. Think about the guests in attendance. Are they supposed to show up with double the gifts? That’s sort of obnoxious.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sitting through the opening of gifts for one bride takes long enough, how would you do it with two? It’s a bad idea. And unless the list of invitees is identical, then people who wouldn’t be invited to her shower and vice versa are going to be getting gifts for both. I think she should wait until closer to her wedding. Maybe talk to Future Mother-In-Law and say that you want to help her plan FSIL’s shower.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would tell her that it wouldn’t be very fair to all of the guests who would have to come with not one, but two gifts, whereas if she has her own, it would be spaced out and more reasonable upon them.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Omg, if your Fiance won’t be there I can already tell this is going to be horrible for you. Personally, I would feel like the third wheel. Maybe you can approach your Future In-Laws about it, ask their opinion. Maybe they’ll agree that your Future Sister-In-Law is trying to steal your thunder!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

Um.  No.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Yeah that would be a NO if it were me.

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