(Closed) FSIL wants to sneak in her SIL's. Am I over reacting?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Mrs.LetsGoPens:  NO, and they should be completely ashamed of themselves for forcing the issue and putting you in this position.  Time to sick fiance on it.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

bouncer at the door. no name on list they arent allowed to come in, and if they cause a scene they would look foolish

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

No means no. Stick to your guns. I think having your Fiance explain what you have here about not wanting extra people and how you will get charged no matter when they come in is a great idea. Leave it at that and not what happened in the past. She can’t argue with not wanting people you don’t know (and then paying for them) at your wedding.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

In addition, “”We didn’t even know Future Sister-In-Law had a brother, she hardly ever talks about him.”  WHY would you ever invite someone who clearly doesn’t know them and whose own sister didn’t even speak of him?  Totally outrageous.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

OMG! 

My Future Sister-In-Law wanted to bring her Mother-In-Law and SIL to my engagement party  and wanted to invite her Mother-In-Law to the wedding to “watch her kids”…so I feel your pain…..

your Fiance needs to deal with this….my Fiance dealt with it….finally when we explained my OWN SISTER isnt’ invited to my wedding (granted haven’t seen her in 6 years) she FINALLY GOT IT….

BUT, regardless, it is RUDE RUDE RUDE RUDE to try to invite people to someone else’s wedding….these types of stories on here drive me batty…and I always thought they were exagerating until it happened to me..

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t think the fact that your parents weren’t invited to hers should come up at all. You might be charged by the venue if crashers show up, you don’t have the room, and you don’t know these people are all very valid reasons. Let him talk to her. If not, talk to her parents about it. Last resort, bouncer. If they show up, have someone escort them out. Tell the SIL that this will happen. Perhaps then she will get the hint that they are not invited.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Mrs.LetsGoPens:  I totally understand…I posted on here about my issue and some bees suggested that my Future Sister-In-Law wants our families to be close….I have YET to be invited to do anything with her Mother-In-Law who is up now until July 30th (i only work part time in the summer)….or her SIL who will be up soon so I doubt that’s the motive…..

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

umm freaking no, dont’ even deal with her. Have your Fi tell her he is not having random strangers at the wedding. They don’t get to crash your wedding for fun! It sounds like she just wants them there to hangout with.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I can’t believe someone would actually do that. That is so ridiculous and rude. I am seriously in shock. Do people not have manners!? No you are not over reacting AT ALL. You met them twice, what makes them think they can come to your wedding, ugh the nerve of some people. Have your Fiance talk to his sister, since she obvioulsy isn’t listening to you!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

No, you are not overreacting. Yes, you and Fiance should put a stop to this. These women want to come to the wedding because it’s a party/open bar/FSIL will be there- NOT to celebrate your and FI’s wedding. This is rude in so many ways.

Post # 15
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2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Totally out of order. Stop them in their tracks. Your wedding is not a free for all.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

no no no no no no no no no

they are so rude, hold your ground and then send in your FI 

i cannot believe you were even put in this position how rude!. This is YOUR day not theres and if they do show up i would have someone prepared to tell them to leave (not u, you do not need this extra stress on your day!) people are so selfish. -_-

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