FSIL wants to use bridal dressing room to change outfits

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: What should I do?
    Just let her and her family change in the dressing room : (78 votes)
    48 %
    Find a seperate space for them : (27 votes)
    17 %
    You're the bride, if you don't want them in the dressing room that's okay : (39 votes)
    24 %
    Let them change in the bathroom : (19 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 2
    1607 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    Maybe it’s annoying, but I don’t see this being that big of a deal to cause family issues over it. I can’t imagine you’ll actually be in the dressing room all that much since I’m assuming you’ll want to be out actually enjoying your wedding. 

    Post # 3
    974 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    manga :  —> Bathroom or nothing.

    Post # 4
    70 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    Since the restroom has an actual changing room, there is no reason they can’t use that. She is not the bride – this is not her wedding!! It’s called the “bridal” suite for a reason. That’s your stress-free safe space and the less people you have going in and out, the better.

    Post # 5
    1184 posts
    Bumble bee

    Just let them change there. It couldn’t take that long? As long as they aren’t loitering in there making you feel stressed then it shouldn’t be too bad. Ps. She sounds so annoying xo

    Post # 6
    480 posts
    Helper bee

    Just find them another room if that is possible, to avoid drama?:)

    Post # 7
    3534 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    manga :  there are just several things I don’t understand here. 

    1) you were surprised they wanted to change, but you’re planning to change? So why is it surprising they want to change?

    2) Future Sister-In-Law requested a spot to change, you never figured that out, and now you’re suprised she’s upset this hasn’t been resolved?

    the bridal suite is your suite to do with as you like. But it does seem like you’ve brought some of this on yourself through poor communication (just ignoring the situation and figuring they’ll get over it) and failing to think about the needs of your FI’s family in your planning. Find a room that’s not the bathroom they can change in. 

    Post # 8
    9740 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I don’t see why it would matter if they change in there. It will be like 5 minutes out of the night. Tell them they can’t change until you are done and that they won’t be allowed back in the room after. Seems like everyone can be happy here.

    Post # 9
    112 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    Ha, I’d honestly let them have it and get changed somewhere else!

    Post # 10
    463 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    If they want a room to change in I think they should find one and pay for one themselves. It’s not part of the wedding that they have to change its their choice. You also chose to change, but are paying for the use of the bridal suite. Also you are the bride, they’ll get over it. You will remember that day forever.

    Post # 11
    595 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    I’m a firm no on this one. That’s five extra people and they all sound overbearing. They asked for an option and you gave it to them – the changeroom in the restroom. 

    The nerve of some people… this reminds me of the poor other bee whose Maid/Matron of Honor asked her to give up that bridal suite for her!

    Post # 12
    210 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    I would say they can use the room after the bridal party and you are done changing. That way it isn’t too crowded and you don’t have to be in there at the same time. 

    Post # 13
    1715 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    So, you gotta find the way to let them in the room that does not freak you out. 

    Why not erect a room divider between the non-bridal changing and bridal changing area. Nothing obnoxious, but you could justify it in the name of modesty for them. Put a bottle of champagne and glasses on their side, maybe a chair or two. A few hangers, lint roller, anti-static spray. So, it looks like you are making them a comfortable space.  You get privacy and they get to be in the room.

    Divider frame: https://roomdividersnow.com/products/freestanding-room-divider-stands?gclid=Cj0KEQjwqtjGBRD8yfi9h42H9YUBEiQAmki5OqUDtXJkysN0V658BcxqBkYZFvBHzBXlCXsJEgZ3oN4aAibv8P8HAQ

    Use canvas drop cloths from a big-box home goods store for the fabric. 

    Here’s a pinterest board to give you some ideas. https://www.pinterest.com/explore/fabric-room-dividers/


    Post # 14
    7416 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    It sounds kind of petty to deny them what is a very small favor in the grand scheme of things.

    Post # 15
    2471 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Horseradish : 

    Sometimes when I read questions here I wonder how life will be for the brides if/when some REAL PROBLEM befalls them?

    My personal favorite quote is fast becoming “It’s not the hill to die on”.

    And then add “Live and let live”.

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