(Closed) FSIL wants to wear DB prom dress to my wedding.

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Uh…. that does seem odd. If you were having a really formal wedding I could see it, but neither one of the dresses you put seem to be that incredibly formal for a guest to be wearing a ballgown. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yeah that would, in my opinion, look like she is trying to upstage you. I don’t think any guest should wear a ball gown/prom dress to a wedding unless it’s very formal and black tie.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Just tell her that you dont think that will be appropriate given the location/weather/whatever and that you would prefer her be in something similair to your Maid/Matron of Honor and send pics. They would look like effing idiots showing up in a Hilary Duff style prom dress. I was in a wedding last year and the brides aunt showed up in a black velvet floor length gown, blinged out, wore full arm gloves, and had a crown..she looked RIDICULOUS. All anyone could stare at was this crazy, overdressed lady. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I don’t think she is necessarily trying ot upstage you. I don’t think the fact that it is a prom dress really matters too much, some are fancy enough to be wedding dresses and some are more casual. I think the fact that it is floor length is much more concerning. Did she send pictures of what the dress looks like?

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012 - The Old Field Club

Honestly, I don’t mean to be mean, but I think you are overreacting.  If she isn’t one of your bridesmaids you can’t dictate what she wears.  In the long run, it won’t matter what she wore.  She will only be in some family portraits. If you think she will look silly and people will talk about her looking out of place, maybe its worth telling her that the wedding isn’t that formal and she may feel way more formal than everyone else. 

Otherwise, noone will upstage you! You look GORGEOUS in your dress!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

@cherryblossomlove: I would ask for a picture just to make sure it isn’t too formal, and then let her know so she won’t be over dressed. Like you said, don’t let this get to you. You will be the bride and no one will pay any attention to what anybody besides you is wearing -unless they show in a costume or looking like a tripper, but that  is a whole different conversation:)

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012 - The Old Field Club

@cherryblossomlove: I don’t think its that odd. This is a special day for them too, and they want to look and feel their best.  Don’t think of it as an attack on you or trying to steal the spotlight! They just want to be a part of it all and enjoy themselves.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I think that the fact she mentioned it means she already realises the dress may be a bit much.  And since she’s asked I think you should tell her that it is bit overstated and you think she may feel uncomfortable because she’ll be overdressed/mistaken for a bridesmaid.  *insert reason here*

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