(Closed) FSIL wearing an ivory and black “statement” dress to the wedding??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

She is definitely trying to get a rise out of you but just let it pass and be the bigger person!

I would be fine with my Future Sister-In-Law wearing it dress like that -definitely can’t be mistaken for a wedding gown.

I hope she gets less crazy after the wedding 😉

Post # 4
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Statement dress?  If you think she’s trying to get a rise out of you (and it sounds like she is) just don’t react.

The dress sounds ok… I’ve worn black and white dresses to weddings, and seen other people do the same, but maybe it’s a regional thing.

I hope your Future Sister-In-Law chills out.

Post # 5
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1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah, I’m sure she is just trying to get your goose.

Just know that SHE is the one that will look riduc. on your wedding, wearing a “statement” dress.  Everyone is there to celebrate you and your future hubby & they won’t mistake her for the bride.. no worries.

Everything will work out okay!

Post # 7
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1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Lots of hugs your way.  I’m sure she’ll chill eventually.

Some people get jealous for attention, when someone else is getting some – so I’m sure that after the wedding, things will calm back down again.  It’s too bad you still have almost 3 months of crap to endure.

It is really hard to do, but sometimes you have to just ignore the comments.  It will prevent further stress & arguing & it will allow you to go on with your life.

Good luck!

Post # 8
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2393 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

When I hear about others wearing a statement dress, or a white or ivory dress, I say let them go for it.  In the end, their plan will end up backfiring on them because they’ll look like idiots trying to out-do the bride.

Post # 9
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605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My SIL (brother’s wife) tried to pull the same thing. She’s mad that she’s not a Bridesmaid or Best Man (although I wasn’t a Bridesmaid or Best Man in her much larger wedding) and upset she wasn’t invited to the bachelorette night (actually she was, but not as enthusiastically as she felt she deserved). A couple of months ago she told my mom that she planned to wear a long, totally ivory dress (not even moms and BMs are wearing long dresses, and completely ivory?…well that’s obviously inappropriate). She’s supposedly been talked out of the ivory (is wearing black instead) but I am fully braced for her to pull some sort of stunt on my wedding day. Some people are just like that. Try not to let her get to you. Her attention-seeking behavior will only make her look ridiculous and gain you a lot of sympathy.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ugh, the whole upstaging thing makes me a little sick.

She gets to be the center of attention when she gets married.  But the odds are she will never realize what a pain she is being to you now, it just sounds like that is how she is.  I think it’s better in this situation to always be the bigger person.  That way in the end, you will have nothing to regret or feel guilty about.  Maybe someday it will hit her how she was acting, maybe it won’t.. but either way, you’ll be in a good place with the situation.

Sorry you are having to deal with it…

Post # 13
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837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ignore her.  She’s only trying to piss you off.  No one will mistake her for the bride and who cares what she considers a statement dress?  Nothing is a statement dress compared to the bride’s dress lol.  Besides that, if she looks out of place, it’s going to reflect poorly on her not you.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I agree that she’s just using this as an opportunity to slip in a snarky comment. What she doesn’t realise is that she’s presenting herself as immature and foolish. Just ignore her comments and know that you’re the bigger person in all of this (:

plus, there’s no way her dress is going to make more of a statement than yours haha ; )

Post # 16
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2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

There’s really not much that can take the spotlight away from a bride on her wedding day, and anybody who tries will look foolish.  I agree that she’s just trying to get a rise out of you and the more you let her know it bugs you, the more inclined she’ll be to wear something ridiculous.  Because the dress is not all white or ivory (which I think is inappropriate and the one instance where you are on solid ground to object to a guest wearing it), let it go.

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