(Closed) FSIL Wearing Two Dresses to Wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Is it ok for FSIL to wear two dresses to my wedding?
    Yes : (66 votes)
    49 %
    No : (69 votes)
    51 %
  • Post # 31
    1888 posts
    Buzzing bee

    She’s being an immature and attention-seeking brat, and Future Mother-In-Law is clearly where she learned that this behavior is acceptable, but this fight is not worth your time. It sounds like she’s wearing something appropriate for the photos and ceremony, which is what matters. You’ll be so happy at the reception with your new husband, you won’t even care what she’s wearing.

    Post # 32
    2482 posts
    Buzzing bee

    A lot of people just don’t understand wedding etiquette. I’m guessing the bridesmaid dress is too modest for her personal taste and she has no idea how uncouth it is to a) change and b) wear her usual revealing clothing at a wedding reception. 

    I’d choose not to be offended since it doesn’t seem like an intentional slight and just let it go. The last thing I’d want on the eve of my wedding would be to get into a quarrel with one of the bridesmaid, esp if there was no intentional wrongdoing.

    She will probably feel too ridiculous to actually change on the day anyways. Hopefully, she’d see that all the other guests are modestly dressed and opt to skip her other dress.

    Post # 33
    299 posts
    Helper bee

    My sister did this. We were actually late getting introduced at our reception because my sister was changing. After all that (on her part) no one even noticed she changed. One of my friends told me she liked the dress my sister wore (for the ceremony) and I told her that she changed for the reception and she said she had no idea- and my sister even gave a speech in her second dress! 

    Seriously, people are only paying attention to the bride unless someone is being super inappropriate, in which case they are getting negative attention anyway and only making themselves look bad.  

    Post # 34
    911 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014 - Nazareth Hall

    I wouldn’t care as long as she wasn’t sitting at a head table with me. Once the pictures are done, she can change and make sure she just isn’t in any photos with only the bridal party. Tell her that when she changes, she loses the right to be in photos that are “bridal party only” and she isn’t permitted to sit at the head table either then because of… well, photos. 


    Other than that, who cares. She’s just being an attention seaker.


    Post # 35
    6370 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

    Let it go.  You can’t do anything about it.

    Post # 37
    1800 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Al she is is an attention seeker and it’s all anyone will think. No one will be looking at her in a good way. I’d let it go and let her make a fool of herself. If it really grates you the wrong way, get your fi to tell them they are being ridiculous.

    Post # 39
    9567 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    meh.  Its nbd, literally no one cares what she’s wearing.. during or after the ceremony.

    ETA: saw update about Future Mother-In-Law.  I hope she has the body to pull that thing off…

    Honestly, if I saw a mother of the groom/bride wearing that I’d be a little mortified for them, but wouldn’t htink any less of the bride or groom.

    Post # 40
    1800 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    Treala :  your mil’s dress is hideous and completely innapropriate. I would get my fi to say something.

    Post # 41
    3641 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

    Treala :  Wow, FMIL’s dress is obnoxious! So sorry you’re dealing with these petty betties. Honestly, I would try my best to let it go. As long as neither one of them is showing up in a wedding dress (I think FMIL’s dress is too ugly to be considered bridal) then they will not be stealing the show from you and your hubby to be. You’re the bride and all eyes will be on you! Both your Future Sister-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law would get a major side eye for the wardrobe change and that dress, but that’s absolutely no reflection on you! Don’t let them stress you out!

    Post # 42
    1553 posts
    Bumble bee

    Welllllll….now I guess I can see where Future Sister-In-Law gets it from 😳

    Post # 43
    281 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    Your future in-laws are reminding me of that big fat gypsy wedding show.  Are they serious? lol


    As a previous poster mentioned I wouldn’t allow Future Sister-In-Law to sit at the head table if she changed out of the wedding party attire. 

    Post # 44
    3686 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    She’s being a weird attention hound, but none of the guests will give a shit what she’s wearing anyway.

    Post # 45
    672 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    People do this. Yeah it is odd but it is not unheard of. At least she is changing into a dress and not jeans as I know someone whose SIL did that lol. 

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