(Closed) FSIL Wearing Two Dresses to Wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Is it ok for FSIL to wear two dresses to my wedding?
    Yes : (66 votes)
    49 %
    No : (69 votes)
    51 %
  • Post # 61
    Member
    6243 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2016

    Your SIL wanting to change dresses is not worth the expenditure of energy on your part.

    Your Mother-In-Law wearing hooker/showgirl chic to her son’s wedding isn’t going to get her the kind of attention she’s seeking. The fact that it’s both white AND sheer would annoy me but you clearly need to pick your battles with this group. 

    I’ve mentioned this on other threads but I told the one person in my family who likes to seek attention when it’s not her moment to shine that if she showed up to my wedding in a white dress or anything anywhere near resembling a white dress I would rip her clothes off of her at the wedding. We’ve laughed about it together and I wouldn’t actually rip her clothes off, but there WILL be plenty of red wine at the reception…

    Post # 62
    Member
    5037 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I don’t see why this is an issue at all!  If your Future Sister-In-Law is wearing a bridesmaid dress during the ceremony who cares what she wears to the reception?  Like seriously.  She isn’t competing with you, she isn’t changing into a bridal gown is she?  I assume that the cost of a second dress isn’t coming out of your pocket.

    Post # 63
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    731 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Treala :  Not letting her daughter stand out? That is what this is about? HAHAHAHA This is your day. Totally inappropriate. But not your issue to handle. Fiance needs to handle his mom and his sister. It will go better coming from him than from you.

    And nude/beige? as in almost white? HELL NO! I’d be upset too! Have Fiance deal with it.

    And some people said you dont have the right to control what people wear…You totally have the right to pick your bridesmaid’s dresses. It sounds like Future Sister-In-Law would be better off as a guest so she can wear whatever she wants.

    Post # 64
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    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    As long as THIS doesn’t happen you’re good. Sorry, can’t help but be reminded haha.

    But seriously just let them fuss all on their own. Anyone who does notice will be rolling their eyes at them, not you. 

    Post # 65
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    2128 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Ya know, if she had just come out and said she’d really like to change for the reception, I’d roll my eyes and move on. 

    Her attitude is a bother though, combined with FMIL’s, this would fuck me off right out of my zen zone. I would tell her she’s obviously uncomfortable so just come as a guest. And Fiance needs to tell his mum that your wedding isn’t a competition, and she needs to get a new dress. How bloody embarrassing. 

    Post # 66
    Member
    2128 posts
    Buzzing bee

    amanda1988 :  Would it be too awful to say I hope she DOESN’T have the body for that dress?! 😉

    Post # 67
    Member
    527 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    FMIL’s dress lookes like a wedding dress crossed with feather plucked chicken! As ugly as it is, she shouldn’t be in nude+white!

    Future Sister-In-Law sounds like a brat. If I were you I would let her change so long as she is not seated at the head table? (assuming you have a head table for the bridal party). If you do, I would tell her she cannot change else she will clash with the wedding colors for the table.

    Post # 69
    Member
    235 posts
    Helper bee

    I think Fiance needs to tell his Mom there’s no way can she wear that dress… 😳

    Post # 70
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    1457 posts
    Bumble bee

    That mother of the groom dress is the ugliest dress I’ve ever seen in my life. I’m usually a huge “no white at weddings” stickler, but tbh I’d let her wear it just for the satisfaction of knowing that everyone who’s even remotely fashionable will either be horrified or burst out laughing when they see it 

    As for your future SIL, if I noticed a bridesmaid had changed for the reception I’d think “huh, she must’ve spilled something on the other one, clumsy” and then I would resume not thinking about her at all, so I’d let it go. Hopefully this scratches her attention-seeking itch so she doesn’t do anything worse, since there are much worse things she could do

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