(Closed) FSIL's wedding anniversary on our wedding date

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Honestly….. I know its their anniversary and all, but if they were considering skipping the ceremony and MAYBE coming to the reception, I wouldnt bother.  A first anniversary baseball game does not trump my silbings actual wedding!  You can always celebrate the anniversary a day before or after, or even a week or a month off… and still have the same effect.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would ask your Future Sister-In-Law and her husband what, if anything, they would like.  Some couples may find a public celebration of their anniversary to be a bit awkward at best; at worst, it may seem a little pushy, showy, or equally unpleasant.  If they were planning to go to a ballgame for their anniversary, and just had a courthouse wedding, then they may either be on a very tight long-term budget  (in which case you might be mis-understood as “flashing your money around” and buying what they can’t buy themselves) or just very satisfied with simple things (in which case a cake and a round of applause might not be what they want).

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I like the idea of pinkshoes, maybe during the rehearsal the day before give them a little cake and a card it is more private with just the close family. 

Also, my wedding this year was on my IL’s anniversary 33years so not as fresh as your SIL and also it was for their child so a little special for them.  We just had the DJ play their “first dance” song during the anniversary dance and it was enough to recognize them and not be too awkward at the same time maybe you could do that (if they have a “their song”).  Also if you do it as a dance song if they don’t show up nobody will notice just don’t have the DJ announce it. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

similar situation to @rbabyrolle. we are getting married on my parent’s anniversary (one of two dates that worked for our wedding and they were ok with it). We are going to let them have a a “first dance” since they didnt get to at the wedding. Playing a song for them would be nice or  acknowledging it would be nice!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

With it being such an intimate event I believe just a mention of the significance to them in a nice toast would be enough of an acknowledgement.  I wouldn’t get them a cake or anything. 

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Depending on what your budget is, can you reserve a room for them at a hotel for the night?

 I would love that if I were the parents of six kids with a free weekend!

Then again I would be attending my sibling’s wedding, not a baseball game.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Honey……EVERYBODY in this area gets married at the same time for the exact same reason.  It’s bound to happen!!  And the M’s will always be here to lose on the day they decide to celebrate their anniversary (badum-tssss!) but your wedding is pretty important.  I understand it’s their first year but it’s not like they’re going to MX to celebrate.  They will still be in town.  Can’t they do both? Dinner at Purple or something and then they can head to the game??

Sidenote: my MOH’s anniversary is on our wedding date and I have another guest who got married the same weekend.  They are both attending. 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

You have a great heart and yes I sy get them the cake OR invite them on the dance floor after your first dance  so they can dance to their favorite song  with you and your Fiance.

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