(Closed) FSMIL wears white?

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

What colors are the other mothers wearing? Maybe you could say that you like it but suggest she order it in another color.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I would be honest with her. Explain that you love the dress and think she’d look fantastic in it, but you worry that it might photograph white in comparison to everyone else and won’t be distinguishable from your shade of ivory. Don’t accuse her of attempting to wear white, just let her know that your one reservation is the color and go from there. If the dress comes in another color, that would be a great option.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

If you don’t want her to wear a color that is close to your dress then you tell her that maybe she could find something that complemented the color scheme of the wedding.  If you don’t care then tell her the dress is fine. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Say you that you think the dress is lovely, but that you think it may be too light.  My mom is wearing champagne — it is a popular motb color.  Also, pictures generally make clothing look lighter, so it may not be nearly as "white" looking as you think.  I’d talk to her. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I would just let her know you think that although it’s a lovely dress, and appropriate in every other way, it’s a little too close to white.  You should give her some suggestions as to color, based on your colors and also what the other moms are wearing.  Both my mom and my Future Mother-In-Law asked me what colors they should look for when dress shopping, and I gave them a color palette to try to stay within.  Normally this is how it goes, but it sounds like you haven’t given her any guidance, which is probably why she’s emailing you the photo to see what you think.  So tell her!

Oddly enough, everybody doesn’t seem to have gotten the memo about not wearing white (or ivory) to a wedding.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Be polite as possible, but I think you should give her your honest opinion.

However, you say that you don’t really care what she wears, so is it worth it to point it out?  I promise you that NO ONE will mistake her as the bride.  Even if she wears stark white, the attention will not be on her. 

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

I actually wanted my mother and Future Mother-In-Law to wear ivory/champagne/light pink or even WHITE!  This way, they will stand out with me!

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