(Closed) FTM, Breastfeeding twins, so frustrated….

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 16
21 posts
  • Wedding: February 2015

You are doing a GREAT job! Don’t be so hard on yourself.  It’s hard enough breast feeding one baby.  Two is double the work.  

It’s only been three weeks.  It takes at least that long to establish a good milk supply and for the babies to learn how to latch on.

If you have to use formula, it’s not the end of the world.  My BFF

just had her first child via c-section and she is having a tough time with breast feeding.  She is supplementing and pumping.  The baby is growing well…that’s all that matters.


Post # 17
5474 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

fresitachulita:  I didn’t read all the replies (I’m at work) but I just wanted to say that you’re doing AMAZING.  Have you thought about pumping, at least in the beginning?  You can pump both breasts at one time, and you can still nurse a few times during the day.  Right now, your pump might be more effective than nursing your babies, but eventually they’ll get better and they won’t take as long to empty you or fill their bellies.  Pumping now can help empty you and stimulate more production so your supply won’t suffer, and you can use a hands free pumping bra so you can rock your sweet babies or feed them.  


Hang in there mama, I can’t imagine how tough it is to take care of TWO babies.  Keep up the good work, and when you get 5 whole minutes, make sure you take care of YOU 🙂

Post # 18
5659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t really have any advice as I’m a 35 wk pregnant FTM. I just wanted to say that your post made me want to give you a huge hug and tell you you are doing GREAT! BFing one baby is said to be extremely difficult, much less two. I can’t imagine taking care of two newborns much less bfing both of them. Don’t listen to those that say you should just quit if you’re dedicated, there’s nothing wrong with putting in the work to do what you want! But also don’t feel bad if you don’t get to EBF or if you switch entirely to formula at some point. The best thing you can do is whatever works best for you and the boys and there is no right or wrong way to do that! 

Post # 19
3220 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Not a mom, but I wanted to give you an internet high five! Hang in there, your kiddos will be just fine eventually. Not that they are not fine already, of course!

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 9 months ago by  babeba.
Post # 20
659 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I haven’t read everyone’s comments, I just want to say that you’re doing an amazing job. My firstborn was a preemie with the feeding tube an email once he was off the tube and home I had a very hard time breast-feeding. I won’t go into the whole story but honestly the thing that I regret more than anything else was how much a beating myself up and guilt of myself over. I can’t imagine how hard winds are, I only have my own experience and I can tell you that you’re doing the best that you can do whatever that is is okay. When my son was about three months old I had a sit down with my mother and grandmother and politely told them that while I appreciated their concern and comments I was emotionally and physically worn out and it wasn’t helpful

Post # 21
1138 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Adding to the chorus saying that happy, healthy babies and mama are the most important thing–if that means formula feeding, so be it. Best of luck.

Post # 22
3110 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

fresitachulita:  omg I am so overwhelmed for you. I want to tell you that every single thing you’re experiencing is so normal. I have an almost 5m old son and your post is bringing back such strong memories of the early days. It seemed impossible and insurmountable. But it does get better. And easier. It hurts for a while. You have to fight to keep them awake for a while. And then it hurts less. And then they’re more awake. 

Whether you choose to continue working on it is completely up to you. dont feel pressured by anyone- it is a personal choice. A sane and healthy mom is so important. 

Good of luck with those boys. It gets better. 

Post # 23
40 posts
  • Wedding: March 2015

First, congratulations on twins! 

Tried it myself as a FT single mom to twins.  DD never had a problem, would latch perfectly, never swallow too much air, was never too tired when waiting to nurse, etc…  Freaking LLL poster child.  The little monster just drove me insane because her brother was the exact opposite!  Give him a bottle of breast milk, he was hungry in an hour and his diapers were awful.  A WIC counselor is actually who caught it – he’s lactose intolerant. Started him on soy formula – he still dozed off and we tried a dozen different bottle nipples until we found one he could latch on. But, he stopped spitting up every two minutes, diapers were much better and he was full.


Talk to LLL and see if you qualify for WIC.  They are there to help.

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