(Closed) F/U: I called off the engagement

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
177 posts
Blushing bee

My heart is sad for you. I am so sorry, but you are doing the right thing by putting yourself and your daughter first. Sending prayers your way.

Post # 18
2414 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

A bajillion hugs for you and little A.  πŸ™  I’m sooo sooo sorry. πŸ™

@Just_Squeeze: agreed.


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@SoontobeMrsA: Move away.  Move FAR AWAY.  I just read the other post.  Give him time to see if he DOES keep his word and what he said.  

honestly, I can’t see the family changing, but that doesn’t mean you or he have to be a part of their lives.  Breaking ties hurts and sucks, but it can be done.  

Regardless, do what’s right for you and Little A.  That’s what matters the most.  

The biggest question I have is: will he LET you walk away?  Will he follow you to the ends of the earth, bury the family (not literally, as nice as it might be πŸ˜‰ ), and be with you and your daughter until the end of your days?

Ok, maybe that’s more than one, but if he does… and he breaks all ties with the family for you, then I’d say he’s definitely a keeper πŸ˜‰

Post # 19
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I am so sorry. I know thing are bad right now but I hold out hope that everything will work out for best. Your heart is so big and your love is so strong. If there is a way for all of this to work out for your family I am sure you and Mr A will find it.

Post # 20
7321 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I’m sorry. Family can make or break a relationship sometimes. And writing off one’s family is much easier said than done. I think you have the right attitude here. Your daughter comes FIRST, no matter how much you love him and no matter what you personally want. I hope you know that not many people would be strong enough to make that choice if they were confronted with it. Counseling will help. I’m sending you big hugs.

Post # 21
3982 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@SoontobeMrsA: i am so sorry! I have a sister who is mentally challanged so i can sympathize. luckily my father in law has a brother with down syndrome so its something they were used to and have dealt with before – my sister can be a hand full but i love her to death and i was really worried about how people (outside of my family) would treat her.

I know my mother struggled for years with her mother’s reaction to my sister. She just did not understand the issues and therefore was not supportive or loving the way a grandmother should be. It really sucks that people cannot see past the issues at hand and realize that she is a little girl with feelings who needs special care. Poor Annabelle does not need to be in that environment.

Hats off to you – i hope you and your Fiance can figure something out since he seems to be a great person and supportive of you and Annabelle. It truely takes a special person to care for a child with needs but i also believe anyone who gets a chance to be involved in her life will come out a much better person as well. You amaze me πŸ™‚

Post # 22
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I just read your post from last night. 
I am very sorry that you are going through this.
It seems that the past year has been very tough for you. I know that things will get better soon!


I hope that whatever life brings your way will be the best for you and annabelle! 

Big hugs to both of you

Post # 23
1412 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Oh honey. I just have no words to describe how much I hate that you are going through this.

I have long said that you are an amazing mother and so incredibly strong. What you are doing now proves that so much more. There are very few ppl that would be able to stand up and say enough. You love him with every fiber of your being and that’s very evident. But, putting that aside to ensure your child gets the loving enviroment she deserves isn’t easy to do.

I wish there was more I could do/say to help you. Know that I am here. PM me or FB me. I will always listen and do whatever I can.

Stay strong, keep your head up and remember that you are amazing!


Post # 24
869 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

this is terrible πŸ™   ((HUGS))  There are some seriously evil people in the world.

Post # 25
8247 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m so sorry to hear this.  I hope that you and your Fiance are able to come to a point where you can still be together despite his awful family since I can tell that he cares for you and Annabelle very much.

Hugs and I’m thinking of you!!

Post # 25
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2020

I also kept up with your posts and I am sorry it has happened. I hope you feel the good vibes and love from the hive, because we’re sending it your way!

You deserve the very best for yourself and your daughter, and you did the right thing in thinking about your daughter first before all else, You’re a great mom.

Post # 26
1261 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’m very sorry about this. Unfortunately I think you’re doing the right thing at this particular time, but I genuinely hope that you and Mr. A can find a resolution to this. He gave them an ultimatum…did they respond to it?

Post # 29
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@SoontobeMrsA: Your friends are right.  I am so sorry that you are having to go through this.  And I hope everything works out, in one way shape or form.

Post # 30
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@SoontobeMrsA: I wish I knew the whole story. But “putting yourself first”…doesn’t that mean putting your happiness first? Dosen’t that happiness include your fiance? No, NEVER let anyone demean you or your child. Maybe I’ll go read your previous posts because I’m not sure what’s going on here. Is it that your fiance can’t put his family in their place?

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