(Closed) Fudging the time on invites for Students

posted 6 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Should I put an earlier start time on an invitation for kids who are chronically late?
    Yes : (9 votes)
    64 %
    No : (5 votes)
    36 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    3265 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I would keep all of the times the same. What if one parent discusses with another about it and they notice there’s a difference in time? I think one or both would feel offended.

    Post # 5
    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I don’t see any problem with it. We used to tell the notoriously late family members that celebrations were starting 15-30 minutes before the actual start time to avoid waiting on them. It would be very disruptive for them to be funneling in after the ceremony had started, so I view this as the safer option. Plus, it’s not like they’ll have to wait hours. Waiting 15 minutes shouldn’t cause anyone too much grief. 

    Post # 6
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I voted for just putting the “real time” on there. This is an important occasion and though they are kids, they should know that today, of all days, they should show up early or on time. I asked my venue coordinator the same question as our families are notorious for being late and she said the same thing.

    Post # 7
    9955 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Take it from your Quote…

    No, we’d send out the early time to all of the kids. The rest of the wedding guests with formal invitations have the actual start time.

    That the kids are not getting the formally printed invitations… but rather some sort of more informal invite (personal note, flyer etc)

    In that case, YES it would be perfectly ok for their invites to have a different time listed (I wouldn’t make the time difference greater than 15 minutes though)

    And so there is no misunderstanding, I’d spread the word verbally (at the youth group), that the invite for them and an adult to accompany them (if required / wanted) and that the invite is to see you get married, and not the reception too… as you wouldn’t want anyone to get the wrong idea (Kids or Parents)


    Post # 8
    981 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would say you should give them the real time, but make sure you have a conversation with them about how important it is that they are there early. Ask them to imagine what it will be like if they arrive 15 minutes late, they interrupt your vows, and the whole church turns around to see who is walking in the door. It’s a good “teachable moment.”

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