Post # 1
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Busy bee
Hi Bees,
Two months before DH and I got married, I found out I was pregnant and then had a miscarriage. At this point, we weren’t TTC, it just happened. We were both devestated by the MC.
Now we have been married only a few weeks, and my baby rabies is in FULL swing. I see babies everywhere, notice pregnant women, think about baby names, and suggested to DH I should start taking prenatals.
Please help me. Lol. How do I discuss all this with DH? How did you approach the topic of “Hey, let’s have a baby”?
Post # 3
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3773 posts
Honey bee
@rcac1208: I was straight up with my hubby. I said “hey I wanna make a baby, and not in the future, but like I wanna have a baby as soon as we can :)”
Post # 4
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905 posts
Busy bee
@Woodstock: How did he react? My hubs would probably laugh at me. Lol
Post # 5
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3773 posts
Honey bee
@rcac1208: well it prompted a discussion and we decided on when we wanted to start ttc. Your hubby shouldn’t laugh at you if you tell him you want to start having babies.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
@rcac1208: I just brought it up! I said hey, when are you going to be ready? He said whenever you are. I waited a couple months then said okay, im ready …that was that. Why would your dh laugh at you for wanting to start a family? I bet he’s ready too!
Post # 7
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Newbee
Right there with you! The weird thing is, I was SO set on not having babies for a few years. It was like, automatic. We got married, and suddenly I wanted a baby. I talked to DH about it and told him I’d had a change of heart. He was supportive but he wants to wait until I’m finished with my masters degree (I finish in the summer) and we move into a house (hopefully in the next few months). It’s so hard trying to wait when all I see anywhere is babies! I have an 8 month old niece and she is the most darling thing. I just want one so bad, and it’s not like me at all!!!!
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat
It changed when I got married too. Here’s a prime example:
A little dude threw up in a store the other day, and instead of feeling sorry for his mother or grossed out, I felt bad for him that his tummy was upset and wished I could give him a hug.
DH is likely heading back to school, so no babies for at least two years. For now, women willingly pass their babies off to me. Now that I’m married, it’s like they want to help me get prepared lol
Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
DH knew i wanted children. we talk about it all the time. i asked if we could start before the wedding, he said no. i was happy since we both got to drink our way through italy on our honeymoon. now we are in baby making mode.
Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
We have a 2 year old and I have major baby fever again. Thank goodness we talked about another little one and are trying for #2.
Post # 11
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678 posts
Busy bee
No kids or even TTC yet, but getting a little “baby rabies” (hahaha) these days. Maybe because I am just so old at 32 (*roll eyes*) so my body is saying let’s get the show on the road 🙂
I literally just had a dream where FI and I start “trying” this summer (our wedding’s in August). I am scared to tell FI though… I don’t think he’s ready and quite frankly neither am I. We talk about it sometimes but just in a more abstract manner 🙂
I am totally working on a crochet blanket right now for a potential future LO though.
Post # 12
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Worker bee
Good luck! I have had baby fever for the last 3 months lol but we still have 8 months till we get married lol I am so worried that I will have a hard time to get prego.
i hope everything works out for you!
Post # 13
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Busy bee
@Woodstock:
@MrsRichard: I actually brought it up to DH and at first he said he wanted to wait until the spring. Then he changed his mind to now! We are now in our first cycle TTC. Thank you ladies for the advice!
Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
Yay I’m glad he reacted well! My DH wanted at least 2 years of married life before babies and I wanted 1 year so we compromised and are starting this August. Longer than I wanted, but we both want a Spring baby. 🙂
Post # 15
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Honey bee
@rcac1208: yay! good luck 🙂
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
@rcac1208: Yay! Good luck and have fun!!
