Post # 1
I’m a big girl. Not necessarily big boned, just overweight. I am losing weight, but the wedding is 3.5 months away and I may be smaller by then, but I will still have a lot to lose. I just contacted my photographer to schedule engagement photos, which I have put off because I obviously don’t like the way I look. I was browsing my photographer’s website and she does beautiful work, but all the girls on there are model Sized.
I guess I’m just worried I will hate my pictures. Ok. Rant over.
Post # 3
@aggiemae: I feel the exact same way. I’m sorry. It sucks 🙁
Post # 4
@aggiemae: I’m sure you will look gorgeous! Don’t compare yourself to models- your Fiance thinks you are perfect I’m sure:) People have insecurities at any weight- guaranteed those model-thin girls worry about how they look as well. I look through the full figured gals’ recaps and seriously can’t believe most are actually full-figured! Enjoy your photo session- it will be awesome!!
Post # 5
There will be some photos that you do like. I suggest you talk about your concerns to your photographer. Let her know any trouble spots you have… like if you really hate your tummy or whatever.
Also know that your wedding is just one point in time. Yes, it’s important, but you don’t want to lose weight just so that your photos look good. You want it to be a lasting lifestyle change. If in 5, 10, 15+ years you look back on your wedding photos and think “that was the year I decided to get serious and lose weight” then that’s a good thing IMO.
Post # 6
Here you go, here’s one of my e-pics to make you feel better (and I was smaller then than I am now). I think we’ve all had the same thoughts. I’m sure you’ll be lovely both for your engagment photos and your wedding day.
Post # 7
@aggiemae: You really can’t compare yourself to the model-type women in any photographs, as a larger girl myself I have to accept that people will generally always look ‘better’ but you have to remember you will look gorgeous in your photo’s.
Your friends, family and Fiance will be seeing what a beautiful and happy women you are, not thinking ‘she doesn’t look as good as the models I saw on the website’. Try not to worry and if your weight really bothers you there is a lot you can do in 3.5 months to make a difference. Last year June-September I dropped around 30lbs by eating really well and going to the gym 4 times a week and it made a HUGE difference.
Post # 8
And I am losing weight as a lifestyle change, says that doesn’t mean I’m not paranoid about photos that will live for ever!
Post # 9
I’m losing weight now and I have lost 40 lbs in 4.5 months. I just still have a long way to go and some days that’s frustrating.
Post # 10
40lbs in 4.5 months is amazing! You should be proud. Keep on going, I still have around 80lbs to loose before my wedding so I understand it is frustrating more than some of the time
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
+1 , great advice.
OP, there are lots of beautiful full figured photos here on the Bee. I would search and get some ideas for inspiration/confidence. Plan ahead for outfits you feel best in and maybe practice some poses too. Try to go into the photo shoot feeling as good and prepared as possible. I’m sure you will be able to get some great photos.
Post # 12
@aggiemae: You’re being way too hard on yourself. I totally understand the pressure on these kinds of pictures. I really do but I guarantee that you will at least get a few pictures that you love!
Professional photographers are used to this kind of thing anyway. Being totally candid with her and telling her your concerns will help. She can pick angles, shots, and editing to go with your concerns.
Having said that I’m sure that you’re much, much prettier than you give yourself credit for and I’m sure that your fiance thinks you are totally perfect so just relax and have fun 🙂
Post # 13
I’m feeling the same way sweetie! To the point that I’m actually considering not doing engagement pictures at all – augh, the things us girls worry about!!
HOWEVER – I found a GREAT board on pinterest that has all kinds of poses that are flattering!
The most important thing is to smile and act confident during the pictures, that will shine through. You’re going to be gorgeous, so just keep repeating that over and over again
Post # 14
I don’t think your engagement photos will come out badly!
Why not do something super fun and different for your photos to help you feel better about them? That way they’re not just “photos of you” they’re “remember that time we did that crazy photo shoot with the hundreds of balloons??” (Which, By The Way, would be so cool to have your and FI’s faces popping out of a huge bunch of ballons I bet!)
We did christmas lights after the sun set, and they are some of my favorite photos ever. It was more about doing something kind of crazy rather than just taking the photos and trying to look my best – we had fun!
And hey, you can always take more pictures.
First anniversary photos? Birthday photos? Whatever – pick an occasion and re-take them when you feel a bit better about yourself (because, lets face it… weddings make us notice our least favorite features more. I know mine does sometimes.)
Post # 15
40lbs? Way to go lady!!!
I had the same fears about photos. A good photographer will know how to make you look your best. A great outfit helps, too. May I recommend a wrap dress? At the time of these photos I was a size 18, and I dare say this dress doesn’t show it!
Post # 16
@aggiemae: I just want to tell you that I am “average” sized and have the same fears and concerns. The bottom line is that there is a nearly unattainable ideal out there. When I see photos of thinner brides on their wedding day, I think about how much better they look in theirs then I will in mine.
There is always going to be someone thinner than you (and someone heavier). Try to focus on how happy you are going to look in your photos and how lucky you are to have found your husband. That’s what I’m trying to do anyway…