Post # 1
My FH and I are trying to decide what names to use on our wedding website, cocktail napkins, etc.
On our invitations and in our vows we are going to use our full names – Andrew and Jaclyn – however we go by nick names in our everyday life – Jaci and Drew.
What is everyone else doing? Going with full names on everything for consistency or using their more famililar names on the rest of the stationary and web site…
The only other thing I should mention is that his immediate family calls him Andy and hate that he goes by Drew, however everyone he went to college with and now works with knows him as Drew. I think they should accept that that’s what he wants to be called but also don’t want them to cause a stink at the wedding.
Post # 3
Id go with Jaci and Drew 🙂 I think it’s more personal!
Post # 4
So my name is short, sweet, 5 letters long, no possible way to abbreviate.
FI’s is 8 letters long and usually goes by the first 4 letters in his name.
Invites we are DEF using full names
vows – it depends on what he wants or what the priest will do
program – full formal name
personalization on favors, dodads, etc – shortened. Apparently his name with his last name which is 9 letters doesn’t fit on labels well so that was an easy choice 🙂
Whichever HE is more comfortable with you should go with. Drew, Andy, Andrew…. whichever he prefers.
I will say, as a vendor, sometimes I get confused because I’ll keep getting full names; say, Andrew, and then in emails, etc. it will say “thanks, Andrew” and then on the wedding day EVERYONE would call him Andy. Scenario’s that that are really common and I never know what to call people! lol, so make sure you also introduce yourself to your vendors how you want to be addressed.
Post # 5
- Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna
I agree with everyone else. Full names on invites then whatever you want to do with the rest.
Post # 6
We went through this too. I go by my middle name, and nobody, including my immediate family, ever calls me by my first name. I ended up using our full names on the invites, but using my middle name for everything else – website, programs, etc.
Post # 7
I actually did a huge mix… At first I thought it would be better to keep everything consistent. But it looked and sounded better to use my full name in certain circumstances and my “nick name” in others (and in some situations I just did whatever I wanted because it’s my wedding and I get to do what I want! hehe). For example, I used my full name on the invitation itself because it was such traditional wording that I thought it sounded better to use “Margaret”, but on the return address and the address for the response cards I used “Maggie” because that’s what everyone calls me (with the exception of my mother when she’s angry lol). Our registries are also under “Maggie” (to make them easier to find) but programs will say “Margaret” (not sure about vows yet.. haven’t decided). Our favors/cocktail napkins and other reception stuff will say “Maggie”.
Post # 8
I had this issue too – my fiance’s name is Jack but no one calls him that (he goes by JJ) – Our invites say Jack but nothing else does, and we will be announced and Mr and Mrs JJ ____.
Post # 9
My full name is Jessica, but I hate it and haven’t gone by it in about 5 years. Invites will say “Jess.” FH doesn’t have a nickname, so we’re using his full name…but we’re still putting middle names (or at least middle initials).
Post # 10
For our invites, we used full names: Christopher & Jennifer.
For everything else, it’s nicknames: Kit & Jenni
Post # 11
For our invites we went with full names, our STD’s we went with shortened (only his name – mine doesn’t shorten that well) our favours we went with shortened and I haven’t really asked him but I reckon the fella will want to go with his shortened name in our vows.