- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
As many of y’all know, my mother died June 16. Ever since then, ive found every reason to be mad at my husband. Now as a child, he was abused, resulting in him not being really quick on the uptake. Hes very intelligent, but he comes to.conclusions a bit slower than others, and hes kinda lacking in common sense. Today I imed him I wanted a divorce, all because he didn’t get a second car key made before he deployed. Is this true, of course not, but im so hurt and angry at the deepest level because im completely alone. I dont have any family or friends where im stationed. Days are fine, but its the.nights that are unbearable. The only person whose words had the power to physically comfort me is gone. In all.actuality, I was supposed to be going home to take care of my mom during my husband’s deployment, because my siblings are going off to school. It was supposed to be so I could take care of her, but it was really so we could take care of each other. My husband’s mom calls every day, and while I should be grateful, im not. Like all mothers, she loves her kids, but she couldn’t be any more opposite from my mom. Whereas my mother was selfless, every thing she did was for my siblings and I, and not only did she raise us, she raised 3 of my cousins, 2 who aren’t even related to her by blood, because their parents were deadbeats. Everything she did was to make sure we had the best she could give us, often at her own expense. My mother in law, on the other hand, she is very in tune with her wants and needs, at the expense of her kids. My husband was physically abused by his mother and one of her partners from age 5 to 12. She has since apologized. While she doesn’t physically abuse his brothers, she has a revolving door of men, all of her kids fathers are different, and she married an alcoholic who she.cheats on with 2 or 3 different men. They.live, her husband, 16 year.old and 8 year-old, in an attic above someone’s house. Her youngest childs father offered to be with her, but she refused.him because he was an “old.man who didn’t go out at night”, he even had a house set up for them. As you could see, she couldn’t be more different from my mom. Im just not ok right now, between my mom’s death, my infertility, and my increasing weight, a huge strain has been put on my very young marriage. I just don’t know what to do, talking helps, I joined a motherless daughters group, but its like I said, at night time I fall apart. I can’t take much more for much longer.