(Closed) Full time nanny job not working out? Advice?

posted 4 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

It’s been four days. It’s a bit premature to say “this isn’t working out.”

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Birdiebaby4:  maybe while the child is sleeping you could clean a little bit? I know it’s not in the job description, but even just to make yourself feel a little better? I’d say give it a month and then see how you feel.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

I’d get another job lined up and go. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Birdiebaby4:  I’d try it out for a while but keep looking. There are better family’s out there to nanny for if all else fails.

I was in grad school when I was a nanny, and I honestly never knew how I was going to get into the professional world. I liked being a nanny because it wasn’t an office and I had a lot of freedom to do activities and some other personal stuff during the day with the kids – meaning, run to the store for something I need at the house or whatever.

Anyways, nannying is a great job since (usually) they pay under the table and it’s super informal. The downside is that it doesn’t have any health benefits (usually) and it’s not something you can necessarily put on your resume. You can’t be promoted in that job, either.

I highly suggest looking to nanny for a successfuly family that owns their own business. This is a great way to have an “in” with a company, and when their kids are grown or you are ready to move on in your career, you have connections in the professional environment. That’s what I did. Not only that, but when I was their nanny I was on their company’s payroll, so I got health benefits, assistance with school payments, 401k etc. When I was done being a nanny, I was hired in their HR department.

So, I guess, the moral of the story is don’t burn your bridges. If you don’t like how this family is running their household and you can’t see yourself going there everyday, stick with them till you find something else. Give proper notice, and make sure the switch you make is the right one for you. It sucks to hate going into work everyday, but as long as you have a back-up plan (the right one) then I don’t see the harm in leaving your situation.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

So until you got to the filthy house part, I was going to say to just talk to them about the hours and to just be grateful the kid is easy. Maybe it would take a while for the kid to warm up to you. 

But the filthy house – I’ve actually had a babysitting job like that very recently. Until recently I babysat a lot for extra money. And I quit the filthy house job after two days and I don’t regret it. I was able to find new work quickly. It’s easy to find childcare work if you live in a relatively affluent area and you have experience and you come across as reliable and friendly. The dirty house was soooo unpleasant to work in. Like you I didn’t even want to eat there. I took the kid with me to Starbucks so I could get a snack. there was only one corner of a couch where I could sit that wasn’t overflowing with clutter. I couldn’t sit on the floor and play a game with the kid. it was awful and I’m glad I quit even though the mom was livid and yelled at me for not holding up my end of the deal. I don’t think it was bad enough that it was unsafe for the kid so I didn’t call the authorities but I feel bad for him, growing up like that. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

justinsgirl2016:  I see what you mean about burning bridges. That was why I considered staying in the job I described above. But in this case i don’t regret burning that bridge. It was that unpleasant. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

Birdiebaby4:  I’d leave. It doesn’t sound like a healthy environment. If it’s as bad as you say, I’d also call Child and Family Services. It sounds like the child is being neglected and poorly cared for. I nannied my way through my undergrad and graduate degrees and I learned a few things that you should consider before you try it again. First, always do an in-home interview that involves meeting and engaging with the child. Many agencies require it because it makes sure everyone is happy with the setup. You learn any details about the home and the child and know to a certain extent what you’re getting into. Second, be willing to negotiate. If you agreed to start at 7, let them know that you start at 7. Discuss that at length when you discuss the parameters of the job. In my experiences, families will push you to do more and different things than you were hired to do unless you’re willing to create those boundaries.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Birdiebaby4:  This sounds like a disaster and honestly, a health risk to you. You’re talking about human waste and multiple days-old food that you’re coming into contact with. If you really want to save the job and try to make the situation workable, you need to have a sit-down with the parents now and explain that there are not supplies in the house for you to do required parts of your job caring for their child (i.e. detergent to wash the clothes). Then you’d also probably need to get permission to be out of the house with him for the majority of the day, going to the library, parks, etc.

In my opinion, what it would take to do this job safely and well is above your $9/hour pay grade. I would line something else up, quit this house of horrors, and never look back.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Birdiebaby4:  Ohhhhh… I’d quit! The dirty house thing would just send me running. I understand with two parents working and a kid it may be hard to keep a house organized and clean. But human waste and animal bones should be taken care of ASAP. There’s no excuse to let it just sit there- it’s disgusting.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

1)  I would quit.  No need for you to deal with all of that.

2)  I would call DCFS.  NOT because the child needs to be taken away or anything, but because they exist to HELP people who are in need of help.  This child needs help.  He obviously has some developmental delays or issues, and he’s living in filth.  The fact that the parents don’t mind a stranger (you) seeing their filthy house makes me think they might have some mental problems that aren’t being dealt with.  

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I’ve done a lot of babysitting and nannying over the years.  One of the most important things I’ve learned is to follow your gut–if something doesn’t feel right or makes you uncomfortable, don’t continue.  There are PLENTY of other families looking for sitters and nannies.  Take a look at Care.com, I’ve always had great experiences using that site!

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