Post # 1
I don’t even know how to respond to this. I just got my ex-stepmother’s invitation list (my father and her just divorced last year). We are paying for most of our wedding ourselves, and need to keep it at 150people. She sent me a guest list of 65 people! Friends of hers I don’t know…family of hers I’ve met once or twice, who frankly aren’t my family anymore…
This is insane! She thinks it’s ok because she’s assuring me that most won’t come. I am not comfortable with sending invitations to people I don’t know, and with the possibility that they might come! I cannot afford that, and I do not want people I don’t know at our wedding. This puts our invitation list to 240 people! I don’t understand what she’s thinking!
What should I do? Figure out a number of invitations she can have and then let her narrow it down and offer to send announcements to the rest? We weren’t even planning on printing announcements. It was not in our budget. I am fuming! This is insanity.
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2011 - Samuel Lynne Galleries and Marc Events
I think you have a good plan. Explain to her that you are trying to keep the guest list to 150 people max, and that after you your Fiance have come up with your “must-haves” that leaves X spots. If she insists that they won’t come, then I think you explain that you are more than happy to send them an announcement after the wedding to let them know about your recent marriage.
Good luck, girl!
Post # 4
@rollercoaster: i know exactly how you feel. My father (estranged) decided that he was going to invite everyone he knows to MY wedding. He was supposed to come as a guest…we have a guest limit of 200 and im pretty sure he invited over 80.
I actually wrote him an email last night and said the venue was small…and that even we had to narrow down OUR guest list. so he needed to cut his guest list. He actually already sent out an email telling people that they are invited…but thats his problem not mine.
DEF make her cut the guest list…and if she refuses…then she needs to pay for the guests that she is inviting. if that is even an option at your venue.
Post # 5
Yeh I would absolutely give her like a number. It’s your wedding and as far as I’m concerned it’s up to you who you invite! She should consider herself lucky you are even letting her invite people!
Post # 6
Giving her a set number is a good idea.
Post # 7
my blood is still boiling. who does she think she is??
I spoke with my Fiance and we’re going to giver her a certain number of invites. Probably only about 6 people total. I’m going to have my dad invite the friends that he wants (he is contributing to the wedding) and only wanted about 3 couples there, so she can have six on top of that. Frankly, I don’t even feel like giving her anything now!
Post # 8
I would tell her that she can X amount and if they have to get an invite then she must front the money for the extra people if they respond yes.