(Closed) Fun Poll: Financial freedom

• ItalianLady
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2010

Damn straight ! lol. But how much are we talking? My “certain amount” is probably different from the next poster.

• ItalianLady
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2010

Oh, so now I see the poll ! Yes, anything over 100 bucks.

• eloping
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: May 2010

hahahah i told my husband to take the day off work on monday because he was feeling tired after a busy week/weekend (work software implementation)

so he toddled off to look at cameras… $5100 later he phones me to tell me that hes on his way home with his new toys. even i was a bit shocked by $5K, next time i’ll tell him to take the day off and not leave the house!

but its ok, i surprised him with a $10K christmas holiday – financially we are blessed

• IvyClimb
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: March 1996

We pretty much discuss most purchases above $30, actually. There’d have to be an incredibly good reason for one of us to say no to the other one, though, and that almost never happens. We just like to both be in the loop. That way, if for example we end up blowing our budget on restaurant spending for a given month, my husband wouldn’t feel resentful that I went hog-wild purchasing restaurant Groupons, since he contributed to the decision to buy them.

• ItalianLady
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2010

@Socrates: Why do you say that?

But if you want me to explain, it would be long and sordid. LOL….you see, (and don’t you dare judge me!) I know where he is and he knows where I am every minute of the day. So if a hundred bucks went missing, it better be cuz he sneaked around during work to buy me a present, lol.

• ItalianLady
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: September 2010

@Socrates: And this is my last comment as I don’t want to threadjack but the fact of the matter is (confession time) this is one of our broke periods (just after the wedding and all) so you better believe a hundred bucks means something to our state as a couple right now.

Carry on Socrates… 😉

I’m glad you’re posting again !!!

• cbee
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: July 2010

We are free to do whatever, but it is better for us if we discuss it first (just so we know what is going on/ are on the same page).

• hilsy85
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: August 2010

If a purchase were exorbitant, then we’d discuss it with the other. But there are no hard and fast rules about whether we “have” to. I just know that I would never buy a $500 dollar pair of shoes without discussing it with him–not so much asking permission, but saying , “Oh man I love those shoes but they’re $500. That’s way too much to spend on shoes, right?”. Then again, he spent $425 on a fantasy football pool and didn’t tell me about it (I only found out when the bank called me to make sure it was an authorized charge, since I guess the FF pool name looked sketchy!). But I was annoyed that he hadn’t at least let me know he’d be spending that money. Not because I would have said no, but just because I like being kept in the loop. 

• sapphirebride
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: December 2010

We are waiting until we are married to fully merge our funds. However, our decision is that we will each have an “allowance” of money from our joint funds that we can spend in any way we choose and we will also have a fund for things we do/spend together. Money spent outside of that needs to be discussed before it is spent.

• UpstateCait
• 8 years ago

• Wedding: October 2011

Yes, to an extent. Normally anything over $250 we discuss. We already have joint finances so it’s our money. If either of us is going to spend a considerable amount, we discuss it. I rarely buy things over our “discussion threshold” but he often does (game consoles, Apple products, other gadgets, etc…). We pretty much discuss all of our purchases, regardless of the price, but the bigger ticket items require a real conversation not just an in passing “Hey, I’m going to buy such and such”.

I personally feel that couples need to discuss large purchases with each other, especially if they have joint finances.