Post # 17
We went to one premarital counseling session with a LMFT. It was actually really helpful. I dont feel like we needed anything beyond what we did with her. We had some issues with my Mother-In-Law during our engagement and after our one session we were able to work past them very smoothly. It helped us immensely. We are very good at communicating and have been even better since we got married.
Post # 18
We were forced to. And it was super lame. Did not help us at all.
Post # 19
I guess it depends on how good the person is…especially if you are doing it through a church instead of finding the one you feel will be fun or that has good feedback. You could always attend your own for fun then do the church one for formality.
It seems like the No counseling and Yes counseling is about evenly split. You all really need to come back in 2015 and finish this research to see if it makes a difference.
-See how many are still married from each group
-See how many wish they had taken it
-She what people thought was missing that they wish had been included
Afterwards counseling can be pricey. I had family member that had problems and they wanted to charge them $125 per hour…wow.
Post # 20
Interesting. That site says they can predict with 80-85% accuracy which couples will stay together…lol
It must be scary to get the results. But then again it sounds like you can work to improve your odds so win-win.
Post # 21
SO contacted our pastor a couple days ago to inquire about pre-marital counseling and I’m so excited! We have already attended a marriage DVD class called “Love & Respect” and it has done wonders for our communication skills and helped us understand eachother more. I’m sure that our upcoming counseling will be just as rewarding.
Post # 22
We are almost done with pre-marital counseling (did a majority of it over the summer) and really were happy to hear our strengths and weaknesses. A lot was brought up that just made us stronger. We have already begun to use the lessons and will continue to do so.
Post # 23
We didn’t do premarital counseling. Our rabbi took one session to talk about the major things with us, just to make sure that we are on the same page with things. He made it clear that if he felt we needed it, he wouldn’t marry us without further counseling from a therapist. But he wasn’t worried, and neither am I.