(Closed) Fun Poll: Prenup

posted 7 years ago in Money
  • poll: Would you have been willing to (or will you) sign a prenup if your partner prefers that?
    Yes...if that's what one or both of us prefer(s/ed) : (115 votes)
    61 %
    No...I'm just not flexible on this issue. : (75 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Yes. (you didn’t ask, but I actually asked him to sign a pre-nup and he did)

    Post # 4
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Yes I would, but it depends on why he’d want one.

    Post # 7
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I have no issue with them and neither does my Fiance. But neither of us really have anything to protect so we’re not doing one. 

    Post # 8
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    1016 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    If Darling Husband wanted one I would  have signed one – he bought our  house and has more assets than I do.  Of course if God forbid anything happened to our marriage I wouldn’t want any of his stuff but if he’d wanted a prenup I would have signed it (a reasonable one!)

    Post # 9
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We both have family assets to protect (mostly property that may not be worth much monetarily but has a lot of sentimental value). So a prenup would be beneficial to both of us.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Fiance and I actually discussed this since we each have quite a few assets coming into the marriage. We ultimately decided against it but I think it was a good conversation to have.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I voted yes, but it is a qualified yes.  With my ex-husband, I consulted an attorney about a pre-nup.  I didn’t end up doing one because I was told only assets acquired during the marriage were subject to division in divorce, so my real estate and investments I owned prior to the marriage would be safe as long as I didn’t co-mingle (though I suppose appreciation on those assets would be a marital asset, I wasn’t as worried about that).

    However, when I married my current husband, I had no intention of getting a prenup.  Though I still had the same assets to protect (and had more assets than he did) this relationship was SO totally different, that the thought of a prenup never crossed my mind.  I would never, ever have mentioned it to my husband and would have been hurt had he brought it up.

    What’s the difference?  I don’t know really.  I just knew this one was forever in a way I didn’t before.  I also saw how fairly he treated his ex-wife in their divorce — he gave her way more than she would have received in court. 

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @CorgiTales: same here, neither of us really own anything huge of value so it’s not like there’s anything for us to protect either.

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I’ve got no issue with them at all.  For me, it’s just being smart and prepared.  You can preach the whole “I don’t believe in divorce, that word isn’t in our vocabulary!!” all you want, but the stats speak for themselves.  Over 50% of marriages end in divorce. That’s a high enough statistic to warrant a little protection just in case. 

    Of course, neither Fiance nor myself have any assets worth protecting, so it’s a non-issue for us. 

    Post # 14
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Well, family business would be one. Or if he came into the marriage with a large inheritance or a lot of assets, or certain businesses. Personally, I would not mind signing one so nobody could say I was a gold digger! ha. Or if he had children from a previous marriage. Or student debt. Or personal debt.

    An unacceptable answer would be if he simply didn’t trust me or if his parents talked him into one, but in that case, I wouldn’t marry him. Asking for a pre nup does not equate a lack of trust, though-I realize there are a million different reasons you could want a pre nup for and why it would make sense.

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I would have no problem signing a prenup.

    Post # 16
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    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    In NC, the state doesn’t consider inheritance joint property if you are married.  So we don’t need a prenup.  If our state didn’t protect inheritance, than we’d have to have one.  We’ve talked about it and done the research and it’s kind of nice we don’t have to get one and hassle with the legal stuff, but we’d be happy to do it if needed.

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