Post # 62
Yes, absolutely. Mr. G has properties and some investments, I have large investments. We do plan on buying a home together, and everything will be divided as we see fit, but everything that we had prior to being together will always be seperate.
Post # 63
For me it is just dooming your marriage. I don’t understand going into a marriage with the assumption that it might not work out. I don’t plan on marrying Mr. Shef f there is even a small part of me that thinks I might need to be worried about dviding our assets.
Post # 64
@kfricke89: I hear what you’re saying and I know may people feel this way, but I don’t think the motive for people who want this is not “assumption that it may not work out”, but rather being prepared in the case it doesn’t. It’s like marriage insurance. You also don’t buy a home assuming it will be wiped down by a fire, earthquake or hurricane, but you purchase insurance anyways just in case the worst happens. People can and do change, so can relationships.
Post # 65
I would most likely not agree to sign a prenup, depending on what it said. It would be hard to fit one into my religious and spiritual beliefs of what a marriage is.
Post # 66
We don’t have anything to protect, but I would have been hurt if Darling Husband had asked me to sign one. I would have done it, but it would have been a shock to me.
Post # 67
I like the way you phrased that. Nobody says “then why bother to buy the home?”
Post # 68
@kfricke89: basically, what @meliss said. I’m sure the over 50% of couples that end up divorcing didn’t anticipate that particular end when they married their then spouses. What it ultimately boils down to is that no one can predict the future. Given the fact that no one can predict the future, doesn’t it make sense to protect yourself against all possibilities (even those we don’t particularly want to think about) whenever feasible?
Post # 69
How long would you have been hurt?…just for a few hours or do you mean you would never see him the same way again?
Post # 70
I’m surprised with all the studying that they have not come up with more (or better) marriage books (started even before marriage) that get you up to 75% or so. That would at least be more reassuring. You could say “We are using these books, have good communication, and know the most common pitfalls” so stats show we have a 75% chance at success.
I’m sure in the future someone will nail it down. That winging it is just no good. lol
Post # 71
You know what’s funny about marriage/divorce? Nobody would sign a legal document that said if they got divorced then they have to wear red shoes every day of their life or 75% of their income goes to charity but you mention death…yeah…no problem…’till death do us part. lol
Post # 72
Thanks all who participated (179). I like to summarize dead polls…lol
62% would be willing to (or would have been willing to) sign a prenup. These people were much more comfortable talking about why they were open.
38% were not flexible on the issue. Most of them did not feel like explaining why. Of note, based on some responses, a portion of these “no” answers may have misunderstood and felt the question was asking whether they would be getting one rather than whether they would have been willing to get one if either partner wanted it.
It was a fun poll but it would have been more interesting if more of the “no”s explained why they would never be willing to sign one.