(Closed) Fun question and a failure: waiting bees – when might your BF propose?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
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Newbee

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scipioblack :  

lol do you ever take romantic walks at night or have blissful moments where you think he might be getting down on one knee and say in your mind “I Do!” 

 

Happenend to me last weekend ๐Ÿ˜Š

Post # 17
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Newbee

I’m in the same boat.

We have been together almost 6 years and he is a little older than me. I bought him a really awesome surprise early Christmas present last year and he was blown away. He got hounded by everyone we knew to put a ring on it. To be honest, I don’t think it was even on his radar until that day! I will admit it was on mine, but it has been since I left my home town to be with him. We own a home together too so we have been serious for a long time. We are a really relaxed, easy going couple generally. However, after everyone else said it, and having watched so many of my friends get engaged since then, I am sooooo eager for him to propose! I have this image of our wedding being this really big amazing party, very non traditional, and everyone having the best time. There’s been some tough times this year for both of us individually, and I can’t help but feel like it would be the perfect time to give everyone something to celebrate! 

We had talked about it casually before all of this, but talked more seriously about it after the christmas present reveal and after everyone had finished houding him (although some continue haha!). I made sure he wasn’t doing it just because everyone was telling him to and he confirmed it was about time and he wanted to marry me. We have picked the diamond and picked the setting now. But the ball in his court. He needs to instruct the jeweller to make the ring and collect it etc. We go away in November to celebrate the end of my post grad diploma and my birthday, but I think this is too predictable for him. He’s not one for romance day-to-day, but I have a feeling he would want his proposal to be something pretty spectacular. We have another trip planned for his birthday early next year, but again, is it too predictable?

We are renovating, and our money is all in one pot, so I would know if he had booked something as a surprise. I’m excited what ever it may be, but the wait is a little overwhelming! 

Post # 18
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Blushing bee

We’ve ordered a bespoke ring from etsy but it hasn’t arrived yet (which is making me anxious). We have nothing coming up at all, which also makes me anxious. So it literally is a complete mystery to me what is going to happen. We have no holidays, no trips, no events (and it won’t be Christmas as I had told him before I thought Christmas proposals were tacky). 

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I know the ring is in the house. He told me he has no idea when he should do itt because we are so busy right now. As far as I know we have no plans for anything that is just us. ๐Ÿ™ I can’t pinpoint anything. 

Knowing him, it will burn a whole in his pocket so I don’t think it will be long. 

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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shesells :  I thought Christmas proposals were tacky

Thank you! So many people were saying my SO should do it on a holiday. I HATE holiday proposals. 

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My BF is driving me INSANE! We have already discussed what rings I like, although i’m not sure if he has actually bought one yet.  For the past two days he wanted to discuss wedding venues and I was able to get out of him that he thinks October 2017 is a great time for a wedding…which means he needs to get to proposing!

We have a cruise planned for the second week of November, and I was thinking he may do it then, but that would go against what he has told me about wanting my family and friends around (he and I are the only ones going).  I know for a fact that he is not going to do any major holiday (thanksgiving, christmas, etc.) so my best bet is a random Tuesday at 2:00pm….if only because it is completely random and nobody would guess it.

Guess I just have to patiently wait.

Post # 23
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Blushing bee

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scipioblack :  yup! My only saving grace is this board which helps when I know there are so many other ladies who are going through this too! 

Post # 24
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

My boyfriend said hopefully by the end of the year! He’s still saving up to buy the ring but we’ve gone ring shopping together so he knows exactly what I want ๐Ÿ™‚ 

 

So 3 or 4 more months!

Post # 25
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Blushing bee

My SO and I have designed the ring somewhat together…. mainly I knew he was having it made so I kept telling him what I want it to have and he’s been very open to my suggestions and has relayed them to our jeweller. So I know that I’m going to LOVE my ring…but that’s all I know. He’s keeping me completely out of the loop for everything else. He said he knows when and how he’s going to propose already though. We’ve discussed a timeline but I’m not sure whether or not he will actually stick to it lol I basically told him he has until January 5th to ask me. My reason being that if he wants to do it over Christmas or New Years, he can, or if he wants to wait until after the new year he has a whole 5 days. LOL. Shortly after I told him that timeline, I told him he should do it before Christmas because if he doesn’t do it before Christmas, I’ll be expecting a ring as my Christmas present and if my Christmas present isnt a ring, I’ll be dissappointed by whatever it actually is because what I really wanted was a ring. Of course I said this as if I was joking however I do actually believe I’ll have a hard time containing my disappointment if I don’t have a ring on Christmas. 

So as for occasions coming up that he might actually ask me… I have NO IDEA! Our 3 and a half year mark is coming up on October 5th…. but I don’t really think that date is too significant and I doubt the ring is even ready yet.. so probably not. We are planning on buying a house here soon (If our mortgage specialist would just hurry up and give us a pre-approval already! — it’s been 3 weeks!) So maybe he’s planning on asking me when we close the deal on a house? Other than that, I can’t think of any other occasions that are upcoming that he might do it on so I have to just wait and see. It’s getting really hard though, I almost wish I didnt know it was coming so this anxiety would go away! lol

OH we did pick out when we want to get married. We both agreed that March of 2018 sounds like a good time for both of us… So he better propose soon because we have a HUGE wedding to plan!

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Auughhhh … I’m SOO in your same situation, OP! But the worst part is that my guy doesn’t have my ring yet! He knows EXACTLY what I like, what my ring size is, how I prefer proposals (NOT public), etc… We’ve been dating for 3 years in December and I feel like the ‘wedding switch’ has flipped on in my brain and WILL NOT FLIP OFF … It’s been driving me to crazy town, and I’ll admit I’ve become emotional more than a few times lol. (But our situation is a little bit unique, in my defense) the main thing holding us back is finances ๐Ÿ™ it kills me because sometimes I just want to be married and go on a honeymoon together like everyone else, so stinkin bad, I can’t even think of anything else. I swear if he proposed tomorrow, and I had the finances, I could have this wedding knocked out in a month or less (thank you, Pinterest lol) 

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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scipioblack :  

You made myvday! You have such an amazing writing style, I enjoyed every sentence! Now on topic – I bet it will be during the trip.. sounds like a do-over to me! Maybe this time when his friends ask he would like to say – yes I did!

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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scipioblack :  

I do enjoy your posts, and I think that if you don’t already you should really go into creative writing!

Now on topic… I am almost 100% sure my guy will propose on my birthday this month…. And since he already actually asked me being German, in a very practical and meter-of-fact way – Don’t you think it is time to change our official  status (he was filling some forms for the daycare of our daughter and had to tick a marital status box) and I of course (being almost half Vulcan) answered with – that would be only logical, there wont be a big surprise there… But I am very excited to see how he would actually do it!  Culturally, we don’t really do engagement  rings. If there are rings involved there are two of them – each gets one and people wear them on the left hand and change the rings to the right during the wedding ceremony. Here we wear our wedding bands (really just simple bands, think The One Ring!) On the right hand after marriage. But i dont think he would do the two-rings-proposal…. Every Saturday morning he gets up earlier than the rest of us to tidy and prepare breakfast and in the past several weeks every time I get up and go to the kitchen I hear him sing:

Daisy Daisy,
Give me your answer do!
I’m half crazy,
All for the love of you!
It won’t be a stylish marriage,
I can’t afford a carriage,
But you’ll look sweet on the seat
Of a bicycle built for two !

 

So can’t help but wonder if a bicycle would be involved!

Post # 30
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2019

I am in the same situation and it is driving me crazy!!!! I have been with my BF for almost 6 years and I have been doing his finances for the last year because he now has his own business and he is clueless about taxes and write offs.  So about two weeks ago I was updating his Quickens and I saw a charge from Moissantie Co. (where I have sent him many links of the ring I had my eyes on, yes Im that kind of girl).  Long story short I told my friend that I saw it and she told him that i saw it *eye-roll* so the surprise of the ring was bought was kind of ruined, BUT I dont know anything else!  When it is brought up he keeps saying that they havent sent the ring yet and itll be another month but I keep wondering if he is just trying to make me think that!  We live in Florida and my parents are visiting for two weeks now and I am HOPING itll happen when they are here so i can share the moment but i dont know and its killing me and I dont want to seem pushy by asking too many questions!

I am literally going insane making sure my nails are done and I dont look like a bum all the time lol

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